I don’t have friends, but the people at the coffee drive-through have started recognizing me. Can’t wait to get apartments together with them soon.
I’m not alone! My local coffee stand baristas have an insane memory and know all of the regulars by name. I could never have that kind of memory (likely attributed to decades of smoking the devil’s lettuce)
Dude, no joke.
I went back to a coffee shop like months later, i had only been a few times total, and the barista greeted me by name. Wtf. I was floored.
My memory is shit as well and i can’t even attribute to any fun activities…
Of course. How else would we develop the exposition other people will need to understand our narrative?
Do friendships like that actually exist? Did TV set me up for disapointment?
It’s possible, but damn do they take a lot of work and time to keep going. Most just get busy in their daily lives, get stuck in a daily pattern and before you know it, 3 and 4 months have passed by… then it becomes years. Then you feel awkward to reach out because they haven’t done so either.
In my previous city we had a friend group that would get together and have a potluck and watch cartoons every week. To my knowledge it’s still going on after 10+ years.
For some kinds of people, yes.
Often the very best and very worst, with narrow slivers in between.
No. But in college, we had a pub we would go to for dinner on Wednesday every week with the same group of friends, with the occasional tag along. Does that count?
The Pub
When I was a teen our spot was Dunkin’ Donuts after school - we befriended another group - of retirees. As an adult it became a bar.
If I’m hanging out with more than 1 person at a time we better be playing D&D. Otherwise I’m probably just there out of obligation.
When I was younger, certainly before kids, yeah, we had a couple different restaurants or bars where we’d meet up fairly regularly, for either a couple beers or some food, or both, or more.
This thread highlights the reality of Lemmy, and how it’s representative of only a sliver of the population. The number of people saying “Friends?” is depressing.
Yo when I was in high school you could go to the diner and spend $4 on a sandwich and fries and hang out. Now it’s like $20 for the same shit
I still meet up with my friends at the usual hangout but the frequency is way down to like once every 2 months or something. None of us can believe that shithole is still in business.
I thought the point was that we no longer have this. I’m a millennial, and when I was in my 20s, we used to hang out at Denny’s a couple times each week.
Now the policy has changed and the prices have gone up. We can’t afford to eat out, and even if you can, you aren’t allowed to hang out for hours chatting with your friends anymore.
That is a good point. I see a lot of people suggesting it hasn’t been a thing since the '90s, when for me it stopped probably shortly before or shortly after COVID, and mainyl because I have kids. But I won’t disagree that shits expensive everywhere, and I’ve certainly said to myself “Yeah, that ain’t worth that.” So I’m with you there.
I think I could still hop on down to my local watering hole and meet up with some friends and put some beers away though. The beers there have always been expensive, and so that at least hasn’t changed.
I don’t have kids, but it stopped being a thing around 2010-2015ish for me. It does feel like it’s been on the downswing since the 90s, but maybe that’s just because I could never afford to hang out at the bar, haha.
When i have local friends, im usually the one who noveltysluts us out of having ‘a place’ we go to for food when we food. If i dont agitate for variation, it does not occur.
You guys have friends?
it’s called “my place” or “their place”, and we make coffee for a cent on the dollar
In highschool, my classmates and I would hang out at the nearby McDonald’s often enough we gave it an informal course code.
There are plenty of cafes now but it’s too expensive now for me to hang out at them more than a couple times a month.
I cannot even financially support that. A beer costs between 5 and 8 euros. Having a few beers and some snacks for 2 hours is a bill of 60 euros. Imagine doing that for several hours every day. I can’t spend 100-150 euros every day.
It’s so much cheaper to just buy a couple 12-packs and hang out at someone’s place. Bonuses include - choosing what to put on the TV, not having conversations be interrupted by strangers, and having the ability to crash overnight if you don’t feel comfortable driving home afterward.
I’m not the most outgoing person, and bars/clubs tend to be too loud for my liking. I don’t think those places were made for people like me, so there’s little point in going there when hanging with friends on my back porch is so much cheaper.
Same. I see friends regularly, but almost always as living room chillings.
I’m amused that the implicit limit in your comment, that the thing that makes drinking 10 beers a day impractical, is the cost.
Heh, I agree with LordWiggle completely. Pretty easy to put away 12 or so light beers in an afternoon… but I’m not dropping ~$90 to do it! A twelver of Tecates is only $16.50 with deposit - much more reasonable!
I did that 3 days a week, there’s nothing impractical about it if you live next to a bar you like. Except, indeed, the cost.
It’s not just beers. A coke is 4. Alcohol free beer is also 5. Coffee is about threefiddy. I’m not going to drink coffee all day. A cocktail is between 14 and 18, a mocktail is maybe 2 euros cheaper.
Do you know how much a fucking CHEF works?!!! Wtf, Monica wouldn’t have time to spent all day in a coffe shop
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I had when I was young. Good times.
You guys have friends?
