From my point of view it kind of proves my point. Why would I endure decades of loneliness with an insufferable libido with the only consolation ending up with a woman when I’m in my fifties.

sex with friends

If I could just have sex with my friends I wouldn’t have considered chemical castration.

I am not punishing myself, I am relieving myself.

Well I just wanted to ask people if I should tell my parents. But things kind of sidetracked.

It’s a pride thing. But who knows if the T blocking measures truly are that detrimental I might consider it.

What you’re really seeking in your heart of hearts is companionship, love, and romantic fulfillment.

No. No, I ain’t. I’m aromantic. I don’t feel like that towards other people. A relationship feels like a compromise to me. Always has been.

As for the drop in T and its effects. I’ll discuss it with my psychiatrist, thanks for the info.

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You know at the very least you could answer the question before passing judgement.

Edit: why are you guys booing me? This is c/AskLemmy

Well I don’t want kids and I’m pretty sure I’m aromantic (not to be confused with asexual). So either way the damage is marginal.

Edit: Okay you’ve edited your original comment quite a bit. I dunno no horniness, means no sexual desires, means no distractions means more focus on doing the things I like.

Well the guy said he thought it was a little too soon to be talking about total castration, hence he recommended me some other medications first. (To which I have forgotten the names of now)

Just because you’ve been unsuccessful so far doesn’t mean you’re forever alone.

It’s bit a of a personal rabbit hole to get into here in Lemmy. But let’s just say it’s more than just being alone.

Removing your libido won’t keep you from being lonely.

I am not lonely, though. I am quite socially active. I have a ton of hobbies (I dance, I climb, I golf, I skateboard, I also go to the gym ALOT, I am also part of a board of a social club) I just don’t want to be attracted to women anymore, basically.

You say you were in therapy for 7 years. What kind? Was it all with the same therapist?

Mostly CBT, but also “regualr” therapy. Three different psychologists.

You say you’ve been unsuccessful in dating. What does that mean?

To but it blankly I am still a virgin. And I feel unlovable. Whether successful or not successful at this point. I feel like I don’t want to have any sort of relationship anymore because I feel like it just won’t give me any salvation.

Sorta. My psychiatrist has recommended me to try some different medications first. But he’s pretty open to the idea.

Then how do you give proper signals that you like someone?

Then how do you properly give signals of liking the other person? Do I genuinely need to be blunt and just say I like her? Do I need to just straight up ask her out on a date? Do I need to flirt? As in use pick up lines or something?

P.s. please don’t tell me to just be myself.

How will her knowing I like her make her feel differently?? That doesn’t make sense to me. I’m still me, I am not doing anything differently, I am still as “attractive” as I was before telling her. So I don’t see how it matters.

Edit: Granted, eventually I’ll have to tell her but that’s after hanging out a couple of times and she’s shown signs of liking me back

How the fuck are you not getting signals from someone and still hoping to “attract” them?

No, see that’s where you give up. If you’re not getting signals from them then you leave it at that.

If you’re unable to make a connection enough to where you’re seen by a specific person as attractive, then you haven’t done enough to be noticed by that person.

I don’t see how simply stating you like someone will make you any more attractive. Hence, I don’t agree with the just shoot your shot approuch among other reasons. If you ask me, I would take that as a sign they’re not interested.

It means (as far as my interpretation goes) getting on friendly terms (not to be confused with becoming friends) and see if they show signs of liking you back.

Also, don’t be afraid to shoot your shot, OP.

If I may respond to this and no disrespect intended when I say this: I do not agree at all with this sentiment, to just shoot your shot. With all due respect, but if you’re not getting signals from her it will only serve to embarrass you.

Well in my case, there is this girl I like. I am not much of a flirt and even then I don’t really think flirting would work. So I’m just going to try to Attract rather then Chase in that sense.

Tinder and night club people.