That sounds like a permanent solution to what could very well be a temporary problem. And castrated or not, you’ll still be you. If you’re horny and unhappy, I suspect you’d just end up not horny and still unhappy.

EDIT: And I just realized how apt the name “Throwaway Salami” is for someone considering this.

If you think they should know, then you shouldn’t do it. It sounds like you’re doing it to punish them, and telling them is only to hurt them. If you feel like you need to tell them, then you should reconsider doing it and just go no contact. But it sounds like your goal is just to hurt them. Which, fair, but words can do the same job as good or better than life changing actions that can’t be taken back.

Echo all the other people here saying that you should be discussing this with medical professionals.

However - and forgive me for this if I’ve misinterpreted your post - if you think that chemical castration might remove a temptation that you might hurt someone then I’d recommend proceeding with it. Additionally, depending on exactly what the reason you can’t have “normal” relationships, there are some situations that you cannot discuss it with your parents without putting immense amounts of strain on your relationship.

Whether yes or no I can’t answer, which is what people seem to be discussing. Also “hormone blockers” probably doesn’t sound that scary (at least it seems that’s what they do anyway).

Anyway, this is just sex part. Do you feel like telling your parents “I will not be having sex”? Someone you should consult it with is a medical professional, but parents just if you feel like it makes sense. I don’t know how open you are with them.

Jesus Christ 😒

You may be pursuing the wrong goal. Taking strong T blockers to nuke your testosterone will likely slash your libido. However, if this was just about sex, if you were just horny…well escorts are are a thing. But people seek out partners for far more than just intimacy. The sex really is a small part of a relationship. What you’re really seeking in your heart of hearts is companionship, love, and romantic fulfillment. Nuking your libido won’t solve that fundamental human longing.

Also, you really don’t want to be without any active sex hormone. Your system can run on T or E, but it needs one or the other. With all your hormones at low levels, you’re at risk for menopausal symptoms like osteoporosis, cardiovascular effects, hot flashes, brain fog, etc. You could take estrogen along with the blockers to avoid these effects, but that would have severe issues (assuming a gender transition isn’t something you desire.) If you tried to take estrogen along with the T blockers, that would cause a high level of feminization - you would basically be doing trans hormone therapy at that point. And the E might cause your libido to come back as well.

Dropping your T level to near zero will produce serious long-term health effects that you really don’t want to experience. If someone told me they were, like, a non-offending pedophile who desperately wanted to nuke their libido before they hurt someone, well in that case I might say the negative health effects are worth it. But by doing this, you’re signing yourself up for serious long-term health effects, all for something that is unlikely to really solve the true source of your pain.

To answer your question: you probably shouldn’t tell them if you don’t want drama.

I’m an older man. In the past decade, my libido has decreased significantly. I used to fixate on sex. I’d feel incredibly frustrated when a perceived opportunity for sex fell through. I spent an unhealthy amount of time looking at porn. A constant desire for sex complicated my romantic relationships.

Now that my libido is lower, sex feels like a fun activity. A missed opportunity is a minor disappointment, rather than severely frustrating. Porn feels like an occasional treat rather than a necessity. Wanting sex is something I choose, rather than a compulsion.

So I think I understand where you might be coming from. If I could have turned down my libido when I was your age, I think I might have considered it.

I don’t know much about chemical castration. Other posters said there may be undesirable long-term side effects. You should discuss those with your family, since they might know about issues that run in your family. But there will be drama.

Albeit I am in my 70ies now and married for >40 years, I sometimes think that I should have myself castrated when I was young. Sure, my path of life would have been very different after that, but it would also have spared me a lot of stress, grief and drama. Looking at my dogs that were all spayed/neutered - they had a happy life, haha. But you never know, what such a decision brings and how it changes your life and if you really want that.

Also, you’re an adult. You decide if you inform your family. If you cannot take that decision by yourself, you may not be ready to take the other, bigger decision just yet.

May try hoes for an initial push, to get going.

No, absolutely not. Leave your parents out of it, your sex life is none of their business and you forcing it on them is incredibly inappropriate.

From my perspective, I would think of it as a sexual health issue, so there’s no reason to tell them. I would tell my parents if I had a flu, I’m not going out of my way to tell them if I’m taking a male enhancement drug or about my condom use.

WTF this is a serious matter, seek professional help, don’t rely on random strangers for critical life choices.

Have you considered hookers?

Can we step back a few paces first? Has any kind of doctor actually okayed the procedure for you?

I met my fiancee at 31, and I only had one real relationship before that and was single for over 10 years. Just because you’ve been unsuccessful so far doesn’t mean you’re forever alone.

Chemical castration is a pretty extreme reaction. I would suggest you interrogate why you want to do this, like at the deepest levels. Removing your libido won’t keep you from being lonely.

You say you were in therapy for 7 years. What kind? Was it all with the same therapist? Maybe you need a different therapist, or perhaps an actual psychiatrist or psychologist, or to try a different form of therapy. There’s lots of things to try.

You say you’ve been unsuccessful in dating. What does that mean? You’re focusing on your libido, so does that mean you’re having trouble getting sex, specifically? Is that all you’re focused on in dating? If so, maybe you need to change your approach to dating.