Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

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    Women, don’t marry men who won’t take your name. That’s a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won’t be the only one.

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      I took my wife’s name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.

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        I plan on doing the same. My dad Americanized my family’s last name, and because my girlfriend is the same ethnicity as him, I plan on taking her name to undo the damage and go back to my roots.

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        I’m assuming you’re a man, and that’s great! I’m also taking my wife’s name but I’m a gay woman so it’s not as awesome lol

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          Yes, I am a man. I do just generally think it’s awesome that you’re getting married. I remember when that wasn’t allowed in the USA.

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      And don’t marry a man who insists you take his. That’s a wall of control he’s building around you and he won’t stop until he’s separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it’s your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.

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        I’ve already found my Shaun of the Dead, it’s Simon Pegg; unfortunately though, he’s taken… and I’m a gay woman. In another lifetime perhaps, Simon!

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    There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

    1. She didn’t want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

    2. She didn’t want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

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      My ex took my last name, because he had siblings with children and my family name would have died with me. It was a gift to my father that his* grandson would carry the family name forwards. And no, that wasn’t a red flag – we were married for 30 years.

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      1. Who cares

      I’ll admit when I was in my early 20s, it was a point of contention with one girl I was dating. I was young and stupid, my mom took my dad’s name, etc.

      But by 30, wiser, less prone to drama, I was solidly in the “who cares, do what makes you happy” crowd.

      My wife kept her last name. It’s easier, and less confusing for her clients and networking.

      Grow the fuck up. Stop being so needy and insecure. It’s a bad look.

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    It’s heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It’s exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.

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      I read the comment in his slimy “Brunt- FCA” tone the way he addresses Quark. I loved him already but seeing this just makes him so much more respectable and admirable.

      Heartwarming is a lovely way to put it.

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      Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

      I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

      She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

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        I’m pretty sure both of us had the option of changing our names when we got married and when we got divorced.

      • Norah - She/They@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        This is really interesting, because in my state in Australia, this process isn’t gendered at all. The man can take the woman’s name just as easily, same with same-sex marriages.

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      I’ve known other people who do that.

      I just feel like any name change that you don’t need (i.e. you’re transitioning) is just more bother than it’s worth.

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        Yeah, that’s what we are running into. The marriage forms here in NC make it simple to take the husband’s last name as part of the process, but any other kind of change requires a lot of crazy, expensive, and time consuming steps.

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    I think it’s safe to say that Walsh knows a lot about women maintaining “walls of separation”. Maybe even restraining orders.

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      So is it a red flag, then, that my husband did not take my last name? And if it’s a gay couple, which one is complaining?

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      I’m more surprised that he took the time to use an accent mark. Either a copy-paste to make sure he got it right, or lots of extra time changing his keyboard back and forth.

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          Most people use twitter on their phone. I tend to assume everyone on twitter is on a phone. The vertical screenshots give it away.

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        If they’re not on their phone (which they probably are as others have pointed out), maybe they’re just a Pokémon fan. I memorized the keyboard combo for the accented “é” about 25 years ago because of this. (Alt+130)

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          I never interacted with Pokemon (i think I was a few years too old for it) - but I used to have to write a lot of international names down for work related reasons, and therefore eventually had all the accented letter win-alt-key codes memorised - though I can’t really remember them all now (I’ve used Linux only for about 15 years).

          I don’t think I’d remember many now - for example, I was convinced é was ALT+0233, but I could easily be mixing it up with one of the others.

    • Flying Squid@lemmy.worldOPM
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      I actually had the pleasure of working with him on a motion comic project once (which sadly never got finished) and this is 100% him. He’s a very cool guy in person and this is exactly the sort of thing I would have expected him to say, although maybe not directly to Matt Walsh.

      He’s also a massive Radiohead fan. I’m not, so I mostly just sat there and listened when he gushed about them at lunch after hearing them on the radio in my car. Thankfully, the other people with us knew more about Radiohead than I did.

      He also said one of the funniest things I’ve heard a pro like him say in a work setting, talking about a movie role he was offered: “I’ll do it for $1000, but not if the script is shit.”

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        That last bit sounds like him. That’s how you end up with the fun roles, like the talking mould that grows on somebody’s toilet.

        • Flying Squid@lemmy.worldOPM
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          That last bit sounds like him.

          That’s what made it so funny. He’ll do pretty much anything if he likes the idea. Just pay him scale and he’s up for it. But don’t offer him $1000 and expect him to do magic with your terrible screenplay.

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    Yet another conservative weakchin hiding behind a beard.

    They’re certainly going for a look right now.

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    Who cares what name anyone uses … my wife and I never got married and she’s always had her name and we never bothered changing a thing because we never cared. No one cares … not even the government.

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      my wife and I never got married

      I’m assuming you mean you never had a ceremony?

      Aren’t you automatically married by common law in Canada after a certain number of years? I seem to remember that was the case with my uncle and his wife. But he eventually had to marry her because she’s German and she couldn’t get a long-term visa so he could work in the states when he was allowed to return. He dodged the Vietnam war draft. When Clinton allowed people like him to return, he got a job at the Library of Congress. Quite ironic.

      Meanwhile, she continued to get paid for Canadian work because she was a professor at the (at the time) by-mail only Athabasca University.

      If Uncle Sam was expecting them to stick around, they didn’t. They moved back to Saskatoon after he retired. Canada treated him very well. He happened to be pursuing a folklore degree right at the time the Canadian government realized they needed folklorists to help preserve various cultures within their borders.

      Sorry for rambling. I need more sleep apparently.

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        Yes … that’s why I say the government doesn’t care … after a couple have been together for a few years, they are more or less considered married, legally speaking. We thought of a ceremony for a while … then waited for so long that we just never think of it any more.

        I know some same sex couples that have been together for over 30 years up here, they got together years ago as ‘friends living together’ when the attitudes of same sex couples were still frowned upon. Now after all that time, they are more or less married couples and file their taxes just like every other married couple. When it comes to finances and taxation, governments and economics really don’t care about sexuality or sexual orientation, as long as you pay your taxes.

        I also know of a friend of a friend from the sixties who lived up north near Timmins who received US draft dodgers during the 70s. A couple of young professionals who eventually became high school teachers and college professors and ended up just living up here all their lives. They did a lot for people and gave a lot of their energy and expertise to people up here … also excellent folk musicians and artists … all because of some dumb war they were avoiding. There was some good that came out of those dumb wars the US was forcing their young people to die in for no reason.

        Don’t worry about rambling … I always enjoy hearing from you.

        Get more sleep … never apologize for being a Ramblin’ Man. Stay well my friend.

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          It’s also crazy to me that Canada basically didn’t care about their folklore until the late 60s. And I don’t just mean indigenous cultures. That would make sense due to all the bigotry. But they also weren’t interested in things like preserving the unique culture that has developed in The Maritimes.

          I have a white Newfie friend who is now in Alberta and he’s constantly talking about how he wished people in Edmonton were more like Newfies culturally. Clearly there are distinct cultures in Canada even for white people. No one in the government thought that was worth recording either.

          Just bizarre.

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            Quebec cares. Probably a little too dogmatically in my opinion. But you’re right about east coast culture.

            Although I would say that it does have it’s own somewhat well-documented cultural artifacts in terms of music, food and drink. We certainly hear more on the prairies about Screech, Great Big Sea and kissing the fish (for example) than most other areas with the exception of Quebec.

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        My new headcanon is that you’re ininewcrow’s wife, and your comment is super passive aggressive

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    My wife went double-barreled after I specifically told her I didn’t care if she changed, kept, or anything in between. I didn’t want to change my name, so why should she have to?

    Twenty years next summer.

    Edit: “double-barreled” just means hyphenated.

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    There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work… Best case scenario it’s an annoying hassle to deal with.

    Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that’s mostly because we also share the same first name so it’s hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn’t need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

    If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

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      If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

      ‘Why should I have to change? He’s the one who sucks!’ -Michael Bolton

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      You both share three same first name as well? That sounds very confusing for your peers

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      Yeah my wife has agreed that taking my name would be nice, but it’s a pain in the ass. And omg yes I love your attitude. Part of why I wanted to share a last name is so we can be Ms. and Mrs. Lastname.

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      It seems reasonable for each partner to continue to use their original family name if they want to, even if it’s only the husband’s name on the marriage certificate.

      If you go down the legally hyphenated name path, after a few generations, this could potentially devolve to family names like: Jones-Smith - Smythe-Johns - Longbottom-Allcock - Junior III (etc).

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      “Andorian women are far more aggressive than Earth females. She made a… an overture. I had a choice - charge her with assaulting a superior or… marry her for 32 years and counting.”