Mine is porn addiction. I don’t ever want to become a coomer but I think I’ve became that already a few times in my life. I shamefully have watched porn, saved porn images and visualized people who’re probably not as into porn as I was.
I really do wish to be done with porn, it’s done nothing for me. I’ve masturbated for many years and I feel like it has hollowed out my mind. I don’t even get that much enjoyment from masturbating as much and the porn hasn’t really gotten any better so I guess I can say that I’ve seen porn when it was at its best when I was younger and everything.
Now all of it is just loli shit, artificial shit and that’s gross or the fetishes have gotten too niche and unappealing. I look around me in porn communities and I haven’t found anyone worthwhile to speak to or associate with. Everyone is six feet under in porn that there’s no way for them out.
Gets better as you age and your dick doesnt run your life.
I don’t have any answer to the “hardest addiction” thing but OP, I don’t think watching a lot of porn is inherently a problem. Sometimes people just masturbate because they’re bored, in which case you should try to get some hobbies you find more fulfilling. But if you’re masturbating because you’re horny, why not, it does no harm.
Do it for your health. Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer
The scientists found no evidence that frequent ejaculations mark an increased risk of prostate cancer. In fact, the reverse was true: High ejaculation frequency was linked to a decreased risk. Compared to men who reported 4–7 ejaculations per month across their lifetimes, men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 31% lower risk of prostate cancer. And the results held up to rigorous statistical evaluation even after other lifestyle factors and the frequency of PSA testing were taken into account.
And if you’re not a man?
This advice is for prostate-havers only. For everyone else, it’s still a sin.
I wish I could stop chewing my stupid fingernails
Everytime I manage to not bite my nails down and have actual nails, something stressful happens. Every. Single. Time.
Same, goddamn.
My nails are long, looking nice, I feel good, boom, some bullshit happens that has me so on the edge of my seat that by the time I realize I’m doing it again my nails are already ruined 🤦🤦🤦
I didn’t chew them, but I used to pick them with my fingernails. Painting them helped because then I would ruin it if I picked at them. Also fiddling with something else helps to occupy my hands.
I’ve got issues with this as well, not for how my nails look. I’m a guy and work with nasty stuffs in my spare time so I regularly have black edges. But I can’t stop myself during boring meetings, I need the stimulation to keep myself focused, which I’m kinda ok with but I end up with my pocket full of pieces of fingernail and the idea that some people find that gross…which causes stress, which causes me to pick at my fingernails more…
This was a tough one for me. One thing that helped was always having nail clippers and a file at my desk at home and work. Any time I felt the urge to bite a nail I would use the clippers and file instead. Over time I have been able to taper down the biting quite a lot and now I’m to the point where I can grow my nails out. The ring fingers are by far the toughest to quit as they’re the most satisfying ones to bite. ADHD medication also helped.
For me: a big component of it is a sensory thing. My brain does NOT like it when I can feel roughness on my fingers or hands. The best I’ve been able to do is just keep a bunch of good glass nail files around the house and in the bags I use and travel with, as well as some cuticle trimmers. That way I just trim and buff things out until my brain is like “mmmm yes this is fine, carry on”, and it’s way less of a compulsion.
But stress also often triggers it for me, and that’s harder to buff out :(
Ill agree with you on the direction of porn. One guy I think summed it up in that much of it seems like a lot has to do with titles. you search for big boobed blonde getting fucked hard and you see the same video with mother son titles as well as dad daughter and brother sister. So basically they make a porn and then market it in several ways. granted that does not work for more out there sex act kinks. I brought up how you will have these little but and cheek slaps that I can do without but they seem to through it in a lot and you don’t really know its part of it till its far into it. Call me old fashioned but I like a traditional gal taking it in three holes simultaneously. You know. Boring old porn. Ok. On to my hardest addiction. Soda, cola, pop, etc. Carbonated sugar water with caffeine. I have stopped a few times but it does not take much stress or such to have me back on it.
Weed. I kicked weed about 6 years ago and alcohol about 2, but relapsed recently and can’t seem to stop. It’s driving me insane, and my mental health is in the gutter. Hoping I can quit again before the new year.
My life got so much better kicking weed. I always knew it was bringing me down, but I never quite realized just how much. Add all the restrictions for jobs to it and it’s just a cocktail for depression.
I’ve come to grips with, “it fits for some, not for me.”
Yeah I came to terms with that years ago, unfortunately addiction is a crafty bitch. Congrats on you for kicking the habit 💪
Broski, you got this!
Cigarettes
going off caffeine is fucking me up
Nicotine. Started as a kid, 25y ago. Smoked for about 18y, then switched to vaping when it was new. Started lowering my mg over the last few years, until I hit 0mg late last year, then put that down. Of course, stress doesn’t want to let me fully stop and I’ve learned that after all that time I can’t lean on just one cessation aid. But a combo of patch+inhaler+the right company have mad it easier to not think about as much. Hopefully I can keep that trend going 🤞
“It’s easy to quit smoking. I’ve done it hundreds of times.” Mark Twain
Just quit nicotine again for the 3rd total time. Sucks a lot. And I feel like the nicotine pouches are significantly more addictive than cigarettes or tobacco ever were.
My secret this time was nicotine lozenges. They taste so terrible that it even overcame the positive association I have with nicotine. Good luck out there!
Good luck friend, I had a very similar progression and after decades of addiction, I am now over 2 years without any nicotine of any kind. You can do it.
Nail bitting.
Food. I’m a fat ass. :/
it’s fast food for me and i’ve on/off the vegan wagon for the last 30is years because of layoffs.
I have tried to explain to people what is like to be hungry all the time not matter what you do. AT one point I was 265 pounds and getting bigger. I did cut out sodas and it helped me lose weight. I am to 201 now and I I do not run 3 to 5 miles 3 days a week and bike the other days the weight comes right back. I was sick all last winter and in May I was 235. I take Ozempic 2mm shots and Metformin twice a day. I measure every thing I eat. and if I break the routine one day like on Thanksgiving I pa for it for a week because the weight comes right back over a few days. The struggle I have drags me down. I would like to have a beer or a burger every now and then but any thing with carbohydrates just make the weight pile on. The food noise in my head is deafening. It is all I think about. My doctor said the Ozempic would quiet the noise but it has done nothing.
Envious of the people with good metabolisms who can practically eat everything in one day and gain maybe…1 pound.
Feels like anything I eat I’m going to gain like 10 pounds despite how light it was.
Sugar. I’m prediabetic and this shit is everywhere. I know, medically, what I need to do: significantly cut back for 6-9 months until the insulin-resistant blood cells are replaced by normal ones, and start doing HIIT exercises to move that closer to 6 than 9.
But like, doing anything consistently for 6 months is a challenge for me, much less avoiding something that gives me the happy brain chemicals.
There are now, fortunately, plenty of low carb, low glycemic products that are a lifesaver when you have cravings. 5 years ago navigating the world without sugar was a nightmare but these days it’s much easier. You can’t really go out to eat, people will get offended when you turn down food they’ve offered, but you can do it.
Bike bike bike!
Specifically, road. Put yourself aside, and just try it properly. The freedom is amazing and self motivating. The reason you don’t see many people is primarily because they don’t try road bikes and don’t understand them. People tend to prejudice the unfamiliar. The bike is optimal for human anatomy in unintuitive ways. The efficiency is amazing. The number of disabled people that ride is far higher than you likely imagine. While women are a more rare segment in cycling, the primary barrier is only self perception. Roadies are super friendly and accepting of everyone, except during a race. If you’ve got a slower metabolism like me, you will likely excel at endurance activities. The airflow keeps your body temperature lower than any exercise other than swimming. That is why I always struggled with a gym routine; getting uncomfortably hot. Committing to a ride is not like other exercise where you are able to contemplate stopping early. It takes 3 weeks to get used to a saddle, and 6 to turn actively pushing yourself into a neutral routine your body accepts. Everything after 6 weeks starts to become harder to stop than it is to continue. I was 350lbs in 2009 and under 190lbs by 2013. Even after a broken neck and back in 2014, it is still easier for me to keep my routine than it is to stop. Your sugar problems will go away in a few months time. One of the other groups of avid cyclists is celebrities. Like Robin Williams was famous for people encountering him on the road and at events. On a bike, in a kit, helmet, and sunglasses, you are totally anonymous. It does not matter how you think it will be before trying it, on a bike you assume a new identity and no one knows who you are unless you tell them. Road is the only type of bike that is like this. Every other type of bike is a compromise and totally different experience. I’ve worked with diabetic amputees, people that could not walk, and been and worked with the morbidly obese. You can do it dear!
If only I could cycle in my town without fear of death from every direction
Similar for me, but the stress of it all helps burn calories, the fear like a little boost to the exercise. Poor joke.
I’m a lifelong bike commuter and trail rider. I ride a minimum of 50 miles a week. It the wrong kind of exercise for this.
But hell yeah bike! bike! bike! for its own sake!
Sorry to hear that one dear. I do not pretend to understand on some deeper level, but why can’t you fully control blood sugar by upping mileage?
I used to calorie crash often at 400+ miles a week, or even half that many miles when I was cutting weight intentionally. At 400+ I could not increase calories to compensate. I was getting into sprouted grains and micro nutrients off the bike, and maximum simple sugar and salt while riding. Three hours minimum per day, and full time+ job was fun. I haven’t legitimately hit the wall in a decade, but still have a primal dread of that feeling of no blood sugar left at all. Kinda curious in case I ever have a similar issue because 90% in bed and 5% zooming on what remains of race legs is an odd life.
Blood sugar, perhaps, but the real long-term issue is the resistant blood cells. HIIT helps wear those out faster so they’re replaced with newer, hopefully less resistant ones. Exercise like cycling where you hit a stride and your heart rate plateaus isn’t effective for that, is my understanding.
You can do HIIT exercises on a bike - more easily on a stationary trainer. People do it as a way to increase their FTP. I’ve not tried it as that kind of suffering isn’t my jam. But if you love cycling and want to do HIIT, you can
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Smoking. Quit for seven years and picked it back up. Worst decision of my life. Was cutting back on vaping to quit when the pan happened. Allowed myself the vice for stress. Don’t plan on trying a third time. Too much effort.
Benzos. Pretty convinced I had a minor seizure discontinuing that shook me awake with what I experienced as like a flashbang inside my brain.
Psychologically it was quite easy to make the decision to stop and taper down etc. as the drug had accomplished what I wanted from it and I no longer had a solid justification for it, but physically it was an endurance marathon, didn’t unclench my jaw for what felt like weeks.
Sleep was rare and awful. My leg was so restless I’d work up a sweat just shaking it trying to not freak the fuck out. It was like a panic attack that just didn’t go away for weeks.
Other than that I don’t think I’ve ever had any serious addictions, nor any psychological addictions at all which is what I think people usually mean by “addiction” as opposed to physical dependence, but yeah.
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