Mine is porn addiction. I don’t ever want to become a coomer but I think I’ve became that already a few times in my life. I shamefully have watched porn, saved porn images and visualized people who’re probably not as into porn as I was.
I really do wish to be done with porn, it’s done nothing for me. I’ve masturbated for many years and I feel like it has hollowed out my mind. I don’t even get that much enjoyment from masturbating as much and the porn hasn’t really gotten any better so I guess I can say that I’ve seen porn when it was at its best when I was younger and everything.
Now all of it is just loli shit, artificial shit and that’s gross or the fetishes have gotten too niche and unappealing. I look around me in porn communities and I haven’t found anyone worthwhile to speak to or associate with. Everyone is six feet under in porn that there’s no way for them out.
Housing. This addiction is crippling me. I’m spending thousands on it every month.
Gets better as you age and your dick doesnt run your life.
I don’t have any answer to the “hardest addiction” thing but OP, I don’t think watching a lot of porn is inherently a problem. Sometimes people just masturbate because they’re bored, in which case you should try to get some hobbies you find more fulfilling. But if you’re masturbating because you’re horny, why not, it does no harm.
Do it for your health. Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer
The scientists found no evidence that frequent ejaculations mark an increased risk of prostate cancer. In fact, the reverse was true: High ejaculation frequency was linked to a decreased risk. Compared to men who reported 4–7 ejaculations per month across their lifetimes, men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 31% lower risk of prostate cancer. And the results held up to rigorous statistical evaluation even after other lifestyle factors and the frequency of PSA testing were taken into account.
Note that there are other ways to achieve ejaculation besides masturbating
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Whaaaaaaat? How?
Use the force, Luke.
And if you’re not a man?
This advice is for prostate-havers only. For everyone else, it’s still a sin.
Nice, I’m good to goon then.
There has been folklore in the gay community for decades that prostate issues & cancer are related to not ejaculating regulating. Interesting research.
Use it or lose it.
Yep, it’s good for your health in moderation. As long as it’s not taking over your life to the point where it’s interfering with your normal life, it’s perfectly healthy and nothing to be ashamed about.
I wish I could stop chewing my stupid fingernails
I’m a snack as well
Everytime I manage to not bite my nails down and have actual nails, something stressful happens. Every. Single. Time.
Same, goddamn.
My nails are long, looking nice, I feel good, boom, some bullshit happens that has me so on the edge of my seat that by the time I realize I’m doing it again my nails are already ruined 🤦🤦🤦
I didn’t chew them, but I used to pick them with my fingernails. Painting them helped because then I would ruin it if I picked at them. Also fiddling with something else helps to occupy my hands.
I’ve got issues with this as well, not for how my nails look. I’m a guy and work with nasty stuffs in my spare time so I regularly have black edges. But I can’t stop myself during boring meetings, I need the stimulation to keep myself focused, which I’m kinda ok with but I end up with my pocket full of pieces of fingernail and the idea that some people find that gross…which causes stress, which causes me to pick at my fingernails more…
Hell yeah, sounds like an excuse to paint my nails, I wonder if someone makes polish with like chilli pepper or that stuff they put on video games to stop me from eating them
They do make that, but I’ve never met a nail biter who was actually deterred by it. But it could still help to bring the nail biting into focus, so you don’t accidently “mindlessly” chew
I did it my whole life (~mid forties now).
I met and was talking to a guy about 10-15 years ago, and it came up - he said “oh yeah, I used to do that, I just stopped.”
Now, consider that, we’re both addicts and met at a 12-step meeting.
I’m like “You can’t just stop guy, lawl, wtf?”
But he insisted - “No, really, I just stopped.”
So I tried … and was absolutely, completely fucking stunned - it worked - I just stopped.
This was a tough one for me. One thing that helped was always having nail clippers and a file at my desk at home and work. Any time I felt the urge to bite a nail I would use the clippers and file instead. Over time I have been able to taper down the biting quite a lot and now I’m to the point where I can grow my nails out. The ring fingers are by far the toughest to quit as they’re the most satisfying ones to bite. ADHD medication also helped.
I like the term tapering! It gives it like a therapeutic feeling, sounds I need to order a file and some clippers.
ADHD 🤝 ASD
For me: a big component of it is a sensory thing. My brain does NOT like it when I can feel roughness on my fingers or hands. The best I’ve been able to do is just keep a bunch of good glass nail files around the house and in the bags I use and travel with, as well as some cuticle trimmers. That way I just trim and buff things out until my brain is like “mmmm yes this is fine, carry on”, and it’s way less of a compulsion.
But stress also often triggers it for me, and that’s harder to buff out :(
That’s a great idea! I might pick up a file of my own
Umm, I may accidentally changed that by staying for like 12hours outside with a mask on and when I’d go home I’d be tired and would sleep soon after. Did it for like a month?
Or was it another change at this time, not sure
Dabs for sure. I didn’t know that you could use it heavily enough to cause actual physical withdrawal symptoms, but I sure found out
Ill agree with you on the direction of porn. One guy I think summed it up in that much of it seems like a lot has to do with titles. you search for big boobed blonde getting fucked hard and you see the same video with mother son titles as well as dad daughter and brother sister. So basically they make a porn and then market it in several ways. granted that does not work for more out there sex act kinks. I brought up how you will have these little but and cheek slaps that I can do without but they seem to through it in a lot and you don’t really know its part of it till its far into it. Call me old fashioned but I like a traditional gal taking it in three holes simultaneously. You know. Boring old porn. Ok. On to my hardest addiction. Soda, cola, pop, etc. Carbonated sugar water with caffeine. I have stopped a few times but it does not take much stress or such to have me back on it.
I wish I had the willpower to stop wasting days in front of my PC and go out more, but it always feels impossible, no close friends, no car, live in a small town with an average age that’s probably in the 50s. All I do is go to work and come home to sit in my room. I also hate talking to new people over voice chat (and it takes me some time to warn up to someone when only talking over text) so I don’t do much socialising when sitting at home. I’ve been thinking of moving to a bigger city but that’s a whole other can of worms and doesn’t fix my ability to hold conversions past pleasantries
Social media. I kicked out all the “algorithmic” stuff 6 years ago. Still find myself spending hours each day refreshing RSS feeds looking for a cheap dopamine hit.
Weed. I kicked weed about 6 years ago and alcohol about 2, but relapsed recently and can’t seem to stop. It’s driving me insane, and my mental health is in the gutter. Hoping I can quit again before the new year.
My life got so much better kicking weed. I always knew it was bringing me down, but I never quite realized just how much. Add all the restrictions for jobs to it and it’s just a cocktail for depression.
I’ve come to grips with, “it fits for some, not for me.”
Yeah I came to terms with that years ago, unfortunately addiction is a crafty bitch. Congrats on you for kicking the habit 💪
Broski, you got this!
Give yourself time to try again. Think about how long you smoked and drank before you quit the first time. I know you want to sprint to the finish line but you gotta stretch first.
If being hard on yourself worked, it would have worked by now. Besides, being hard on you is everyone else’s job. They dont need the help.
Cigarettes
Following the news.
Between internet sites, twitch, podcasts, etc I spend hours a day just following the news.
What’s insidious about this for me is that following the news is a good thing. I feel I’ve found enough solid news sources that I can stay informed about what’s happening in the world. When I don’t follow along with what’s happening I feel anxious, like I’m going to fall behind and then I will somehow get behind and not be able understand what’s happening around me.
So while following the news in itself is not a bad thing, it has negative consequences in my life, mainly around time. It cuts into my time with my kids a bit. And it definitely cuts significantly into my time for reading books, which is probably my #1 hobby.
I’ve tried to reduce the time I spend on it all but it doesn’t usually work. So it’s a habit I’m trying to kick but not really being successful at it.
I generally don’t condone AI use but this seems like a case where it may be beneficial. Is it possible to feed your news sources into a chat bot and have it generate a “daily feed” of headlines and summaries? If it works right it could save you a lot of time.
going off caffeine is fucking me up
You’ve got to taper. I’ve had hangovers after multi-week benders that didn’t hurt as bad as trying to drop caffeine cold turkey. I know tapering is counter intuitive and counter productive for a lot of addictions, but for caffeine it’s a must.
Yeah, that’s what I’m doing. It’s still annoying though when I’ve been doing it for weeks and I still feel like shit all the time and a cup of coffee instantly fixes it (until the buzz wears off).
going off caffeine
No
is fucking me up
If youre not hurting other people I think youre doing a great job.
…what
Nicotine. Started as a kid, 25y ago. Smoked for about 18y, then switched to vaping when it was new. Started lowering my mg over the last few years, until I hit 0mg late last year, then put that down. Of course, stress doesn’t want to let me fully stop and I’ve learned that after all that time I can’t lean on just one cessation aid. But a combo of patch+inhaler+the right company have mad it easier to not think about as much. Hopefully I can keep that trend going 🤞
“It’s easy to quit smoking. I’ve done it hundreds of times.” Mark Twain
I’m 10 years without a smoke-
I still want one every time I have a beer at the bar or a morning coffee.
Just quit nicotine again for the 3rd total time. Sucks a lot. And I feel like the nicotine pouches are significantly more addictive than cigarettes or tobacco ever were.
My secret this time was nicotine lozenges. They taste so terrible that it even overcame the positive association I have with nicotine. Good luck out there!
Never heard of this but are they deliberately made to taste bad? Seems like a clever idea. The nicotine is there if you need it but the terrible taste puts you off.
That said, cigarettes smell awful to me and people keep going so I can’t imagine how bad they would have to taste.
I don’t think they are supposed to taste bad. They are just an alternative to nicotine gum. You can get them at pharmacies. I don’t like the gum because it’s bright yellow and leaves little stains in my teeth so I got the lozenges this time instead.
They do taste absolutely terrible though. And yeah, cigarettes smell awful but for whatever reason, I like the taste of them. I quit those a long time ago specifically for the bad smell though.
Good luck friend, I had a very similar progression and after decades of addiction, I am now over 2 years without any nicotine of any kind. You can do it.
Using the phone in bed. Before going to sleep. Immediately after waking up.
I do that as well but for some reason it doesn’t have detrimental effects on me.
I often hit myself on the nose with the phone because I fall asleep. In the morning, it helps get my brain gearing into motion.
Nail bitting.
Lengthy convo about it in response to another comment, that may have some helpful tips!
