“It’s not a principle if it doesn’t cost you anything”
Also just curious about your deeply held principles in general.
No political grandstanding please.
A time when? How about every fucking year. Not observing Christmas or other human holidays. It’s inconvenient because everyone else becomes temporarily insane, which in turn causes my existential depression to give rise to ye ol’ seasonal depression. I don’t even celebrate my birthday, as it just reminds me I’m one year closer to never achieving my goals before I die a miserable death.
“Happy Holidays”. Pfft.
everyone else becomes temporarily insane
Yeah all these people having fun and participating positively in their community are crazy.
The point is that they could do good year round, not just waiting 364 days to give a shit.
Who says they’re not?
Bah, humbug. I feel it.
My wife, thinking I’m too careful with our child.
I think I’m (objectively) fairly balanced, maybe leaning towards careful, sure. But really I just want the baby to grow to the point of being able to walk without involuntary nose dives with both eyeballs still intact.
Yes, I think it’s too much for the baby to be allowed to run around with that actual kitchen tool in hand. Yes I know the baby loves it, but it’s essentially a metal rod. Constantly derails an otherwise good day to speak up, but here to on the baby’s behalf.
You should check out the Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff. While it’s one thing when they are a literal infant, as they become a toddler and into early childhood there will be things they should be doing on their own that will more than likely injure themselves. In order to grow and develop they need risk. The problem with risk is that sometimes they will sometimes get hurt. However it’s the only way they can truly learn and grow, and it’s also why they have rubber bones.
I appreciate the suggestion, I’ll look into it. That said, im a firm believer in the schools of thought around calculated risk. Letting them fall sure, but into a somewhat safe or even lightly padded area - enough to feel the shock and some light pain that is informative in teaching them to be more careful and internally weigh potential risk against their future actions, but also avoiding said threat to life and limb.
Personally, I’m of the mind that a lot of the “just let them fall” theory is more to soothe the guilt of the parents and many of those “walk it off” kids had multiple TBIs and grew up to be one eyed, nine toed, frontal lobe damaged trump voters.
Obviously the solution is to put the baby in full biker gear, including a helmet.
Baby Platemail.
with both eyeballs still intact.
That’s something you rather need watch out between 5 and 15 years.
And flower pots are dangerous btw.
Feels as if there is a particular flower pot that you have history with?
Me and my sis both barely missed the eye as a child. Always some big clay pot.
I have a fairly strict policy of being honest and not intentionally deceiving people. This cost me back in my 20’s when I was working a call center tech support job for dial up internet.
Our management wanted 10 minute handle times even for tier 2 calls. I was a tier 2 rep and this was in windows 98 era so I would have to walk grandma’s through uninstalling their entire coms stack and clearing certain registry components and reinstalling them. For grannies I could get this done cleanly in 1 hour. My managers would occasionally swoop over and tell me to tell the customer I had to look up something and call them back. This I would not do, it would make me seem less confident in the fix which grandma already had to be encouraged and made to feel they were in capable hands to undertake and what if we got a typo in the phone number or we can’t get back to them so they’re left with their computer largely bricked for internet.
This resulted in me getting demoted, then promoted again to be demoted and then ultimately moved to a different department that had much more relaxed handle times while still performing a tier 2+ experience for an extra dollar per hour. So in the end it was a win but the yoyo happened at a very financially unstable time for me so it was rough
I once went out with a friend to the clubs while I was on vacation at his house in the big city. He had gotten a new job as a director and I was a minimum wage scrub.
He wanted to go to the restroom, so he gave me his coat and some money to store our things away. I find out they were charging an extraordinary rent for what many others offer for free. I refused thinking it was abusively outrageous and went back with our stuff thinking we could just store them elsewhere at a reasonable price.
He was pissed. He told me off and decided our night out was over. He railed at me, made me cry, and basically told me our friendship was over. In my mind, I was only trying to protect him. I left the next day.
He called me back a couple of times months later but I had already moved on. I want to think that he regretted it, but he’s in the big leagues now and probably thinks less of me.
Leaving behind a workplace with a really cushy schedule and commute because I didn’t want my professional license attached to the people and things within that place.
I practice the lost art of nuanced discussion.
Yea, well fuck you
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Weighing this decision right now, certainly is tough.
The Reddit API changes around third party apps like a lot of other people here. It was so clear they were being disingenuous about the changes and that it was a de facto ban. Pretending it wasn’t a ban and that they “support third party developers” really pissed me off.
It’s one thing to charge for API access (which is not unreasonable, per se, since API calls cost Reddit money), but Reddit decided to charge an extremely unreasonable and unjustifiable rate to third party app developers. On top of that, they decided NSFW labeled content could only be seen in their official app and could never show up in any third party apps that decided to pay for API access. They claimed it was about “making sure children don’t see adult content,” but that was clearly BS since they could just not serve that content in the API for non-18+ accounts and require third party developers to agree to certain terms of use or have their app cut off.
So Reddit forced third party apps to have to charge a subscription fee to their users and those users would not get full access to Reddit content anyway. Gee, I wonder what users will do if they have to choose between paying a subscription for less content or using the crappy official app with worse and fewer features to get all content for free…
The disingenuousness of the justification for the changes and pretending there was no ulterior motive was worse to me than the changes themselves. I missed Reddit a lot at first, and occasionally I still do, but I haven’t been back since.
I had similar feelings. I knew I would miss my better, ad-free apps, but I could recognize it would be unreasonable to expect Reddit to pay for competitor access when it uses ads to support itself. I wouldn’t even hold it against them if they removed third party access entirely. But the way they did it was just so slimy.
Lying to developers, then lying to users about their discussions. Then insisting their unviable price was reasonable just so they could claim to not actually be killing them. And during the protests, threatening and replacing mods of subs for literally implementing the rules their communities voted for simply because it hurt their bottom line. They were volunteer workers maintaining the platform for years because they love their communities; until they do something the company doesn’t like, then suddenly they were employees to be fired and replaced. It really was the principle of the thing that disgusted me.
I have not been back since as well. I was so optimistic at the time that the community would force reddit to back down with the whole black out. Was so sad to see many people just went back to business as usual.
One time I tried to report a guy who attempted to mug me but I scared him off. The police refused to take a statement cuz as far as they were concerned he didn’t manage to do any harm, except for me it was an attempt. And I was worried that he could hurt someone more vulnerable than myself.
I’m having a hard time finding a job that aligns with my ethics. I was a software developer, and it seems that everything that’s hiring right now is stuff that would make me feel like garbage.
I considered taking a job as a help desk for an advertising library. I figure I could do a really bad job of it, and take a big chunk of my salary to donate to adblockers.
I earn about 30% of what I did five years ago, and prices have only gone up. I’ll probably become homeless if things continue, that’s pretty darn inconvenient.
I just want to make dumb little video games to feed my family, but I’m too burnt out from my soul crushing minimum wage job to make dinner.
Look into space/aerospace/embedded. They still pay well and you get to write software for cool shit.
Maybe look into working for a school system/university?
I got fired for filing a discrimination lawsuit against my employer for barring me from wearing the kilt I’d worn at least 2-3 times per week for two years. The banning was because they decided it was not “professional attire”, but all the yoga pants, miniskirts, and sleeveless dresses are just fine.
There’s a lot more to the story including a trip to mental health urgent care and the actual firing call happening while I was on FMLA.
I mean, wear what you want by all means, but as a Scot who’s worn a kilt a handful of times at very formal occasions it seems pretty odd to wear it on the daily. To each their own, of course, but it is a bit unusual. What made you decide to push ahead with this, knowing that your work wasn’t keen?
I’d been wearing it to work for 2 years prior to this. I also worked at the same company over 10 years ago in a department with a strictrr dress code and wore it for 3+ years in that role.
The meeting about the kilt happened the day before the c-suite were coming to visit the office from out of town, which I suspect was the real reason for it. Last time executives came visiting I brought up pay equity and raised the matter of inflation, COL pay adjustments, and merit raises when they got done telling us how well the company was doing and that our te am had a direct effect on boosting stock value. I got pulled into a meeting first thing next day to tell me I could not discuss salary with fellow employees, which is a violation of labor law and company policy. My ethics complaint about that was swept under the rug and when I cpntacted the NLRB (national labor relations board) to report the violation of the law the respondent basically said they could file it but the odds of the complaint going anywhere vs a company this size was almost zero.
Yay USA!
What is FMLA?
Family Medical Leave Act. Let’s you leave work and get paid for a period of time (I believe at a reduced rate) if a family member is having medical issues.
Almost always it’s unpaid. Any paid leave you have is accrued separate from FMLA leave. The only thing it guarantees is you’ll have a job when you get back from any number of protected leave reasons.
Ok. Thanks.
It’s a thing USians can envoke, to not come in to work, when they can’t even. Edit: spelling
Not using Meta ‘products’
During my military service I constantly fought against idiotic traditions and doing things the stupid and inefficient way. I had read the regulations manual carefully to back me up and presented my cases respectfully with proper conduct.
I always started by quoting the relevant regulations, so they had to hear me out and could not officially punish me for my “disobedient queries”. This got many of the regular staff royally pissed off at me, some just found my resilience amusing and a few younger offiicers even showed occasional support for me. I knew very well that nothing big would change, but I actually did manage to get rid of a few small things that were just hassling disguised as training.
My service friends thought I was crazy for stirring things up in vain, but I took good care that I never got them in any trouble. The only “punishment” they could give me was that I was always given the assignments that were considered most unpleasant and I was regularly sent on long range recon excersizes with my men, so I would be out of sight for most of the time. I loved those long trips in the woods.
I also quit my first real and well paying job out of principle a week after we got a new manager. I had been there for 5 years and really liked the work, but after the new manager gave us a list of changes he wanted, it became clear to me that it was time to leave. It would have been entirely impossible to fulfill my duties properly with the allocated resources and time. I could have done the work badly, sure, but this would have led to the customer leaving us for other services. I did point this out to the new manager when I was cleaning my desk. “Just because you cannot do doesn’t mean that someone better couldn’t” was the only response. They promptly lost the customer and 3-4 others also quit the team in the same year.
With the help of an old friend I landed a new, little less paying job but with vastly better benefits. Been there since.
I was working part time as a tutor in a community college. I had applied to work for AT&T or maybe Ameritech as a tech. It would’ve been a very good job, but I had to start training full time around late April or May. I had some students that were really relying on me to help them prepare for finals. I asked if they could put me in the next class, but they said now or never, so I told them I had to turn them down.
They gave no shits, of course, but it was a big deal to my students. And the school that was having trouble staffing math and electronics tutors. It changed the course of my life, but things turned out just fine, eventually.
I applied for a tech job with AT&T years ago. It was nuts. They had a big bunch of us meet at an office building for testing. Before we started the tests, this woman spoke to us, talking up the company, telling us how lucky we’d be to get a job there, etc. I think she’d brought a couple other people to tell us how great it was. Then she casually mentioned that they had a ridiculously high turnover rate because they fire people for just about anything, which is why they’re always hiring. If you’re late one day because you have a flat tire, or miss one day because you’re sick, even with a doctor’s note, you’re fired. The test was simple. I finished it quickly and got everything right, but when they emailed me to set up a second meeting, I just deleted it. No way would I want a job like that.
I refuse to use Meta or Google anything. Cuts me off from a lot of people and is pretty inconvenient, but I have to make it as difficult as possible for those rat fuck companies to exploit me.
