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    This is honestly so heartwarming. Adult dudes have such a hard time meeting other guys, this actually makes me happy seeing two dudes just meet and say hello

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      Agreed

      But dude should check in with his wife if he’s just gonna not come home suddenly

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        When two straight couples become two gay couples. Tale as old as time.

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          Two males have any sort of positive interaction with each other
          Weirdos: Wow so GAY

          Saying it in a positive way doesn’t really make it better. Normalize men being able to enjoy each other’s company without assuming they’re falling in love or lusting after each other, sheesh.

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            But see, every human social interaction these days is viewed through the lense of “must have sexual undertones.”

            That’s why it’s hard to go in public/make eye contact with strangers without someone glaring at you and accusing you of something nasty…

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            Don’t have time for too much complex thought right now but just wanted to say THANK YOU.

            I feel like pop culture has really fed into this nonsense, where every scene between anybody is written/filmed as “ship-bait”.

            This idea people can’t be friends without underlying sexual tension feels a lot like “you can’t just enjoy something without putting it online and side-hustling it.” And it sucks.

            It feels like another extension of how everyone sees every single human interaction as transactional anymore.

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            it is normal, I just think its funny to suggest a romantic plot between the women to setup their husbands with each other

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      Ngl I remember even highschool being a hell for making friends because there was this 70% they will turn out to be andrew tate fans after.

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      I met a fellow in my neighborhood by happenstance. We happened to be crazy similar. He was really cool.

      I felt bad not really getting around to checking in on him more often. I was shy and afraid of what I didn’t know, or making a fool of myself. But damnit he was a really cool guy…

      Occasionally I’d catch him with his garage door open and we’d have a chat. (You gotta understand, nobody interacts in this neighborhood.) We met because I was out running in the rain like a crazy guy (we rarely get rain lol) and HE decided to introduce himself to me as I ran by his house LOL.

      So anyway…I saw he hadn’t responded to my Merry Christmas text.

      …And just a week ago or so I got a text from his wife that he had passed away from an aneurysm 4 months prior.

      When I brought her flowers for him, she told me he had said that he thought. . .that I was very cool. . .

      Why I’m sharing this:

      I know it’s awkward sometimes trying to make new friends as an adult, but also it’s foolish to simply assume tomorrow is guaranteed. Do that hangout. Plan the game night. Talk about random stuff in the backyard. Whatever.

      You will never regret more time spent in fellowship and good company.

      I would have been a really good friend to him if I just reached out more…

      The loneliness epidemic is absolutely real, and this isolating society is killing us all by design and it breaks my heart.

      That is all.

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        Wow, this comment chain went from heartwarming to depressing real fast. I’m sorry you lost your friend.

        The loneliness epidemic is absolutely real, and this isolating society is killing us all by design and it breaks my heart.

        That’s true, but internet pseudo-feminists seem intent on declaring that the loneliness epidemic isn’t real and is just made up by the manosphere to oppress women.

        (This isn’t a statement against feminism, but the idea that anything that hurts men is feminist isn’t really feminism)

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          Hah, sorry, I didn’t mean it to be depressing. True, I was kinda venting a painful experience but . . .my sincere hope is that someone might learn from my mistakes, and finally stop putting off spending time with people who matter to them.

          There will always be excuses to put it off til “next time”, “one day”, “eventually…”, but we don’t have forever to get over them, and we need our fellows more than we ever have.

          And yeah, the terminally-online are a frightening combination of “ferociously bitter” and “obsessed with being ‘a part of something’”, that they actually rejoice in the suffering of others as if oppression is some kind of football game.

          I want no part of whatever someone like that is selling.

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            If I could get them to realize one thing, it would be that feminism isn’t about women participating in patriarchal structures of oppression as oppressors; it’s about abolishing patriarchal structures of oppression.

            If I got a bonus thing, it would be getting them to realize that patriarchy also harms men, that toxic masculinity harms men (and can be perpetuated by women), and that only a relatively small percentage of men can be categorized as “oppressors.”

            An oligarch is an oligarch, whether man or woman. And bullying a vulnerable man because he’s an easier target than an actual oppressor is not “smashing the patriarchy.”

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        Yes, hello from the rest of the world, where not only are we owned, but complaining about it is also a self-own.

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      I think last time my wife and I went (2025) we got two beers and 20 wings for around $25? How is that rich?

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      I haven’t been in a while but from what I recall unless you get actual wings they’re pretty reasonable, at least as much as other places.

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    Some profoundly shitty dudes in these comments.

    Funny meme, depressing thread for Lemmy.

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      I used to think this was crazy but my skin is brown so I’ve had to let my partner have my location so they can track me in case I get got by ICE.

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      Pretty much. It’s great as I get an alert when she’s 5 mins from home so I can peel myself off the sofa before she’s back and look productive.

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      Well, they’re selling it to the advertisers, why not your wife too?

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      I just got a new iPhone. It offers the option during setup, to leave your location on for your designated family. I left the box checked yes because it was the default and I had no strong feelings about it.

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      Sort of? If you are in a trusting relationship who cares? It’s simply convenient to check where your spouse or kids are without having to wait for a response.

      The only reason me and my wife don’t do it is because we don’t trust the apps not to scoop up our location data and sell it to everyone.

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          Not really. Your phone is already doing location checks every few minutes for a variety of reasons, so it doesn’t really affect it unless you have rooted your phone and hunted down all the little bullshit things that trigger location checks.

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            You know you can just turn off location services right? Pretty sure even iPhone has the option

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              You can turn off higher level location services at the OS level, but at the radio level the cellular network will always need a precise enough location to handle tower handoffs and timing issues between the tower and phone, as well as modern beam forming techniques where the tower “aims” the signal at the phone. The simple act of the phone communicating with a specific tower tells the phone where it is (sometimes with surprisingly high precision).

              911/emergency services also use more low level location techniques, but I’m pretty sure those functions don’t get called unless you dial an emergency number.

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                You’re getting way too far in the weeds on this, man. They’re asking if you can turn off GPS to save battery

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                  I’m giving some reasons why turning on or off location services at the OS level doesn’t appreciably change battery life.

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              Turning off your GPS will not turn off location sharing to Google or other people, it will just fall back to using cell towers and wifi. Admittedly, it will be much more inaccurate, but it will still try it’s best. You can also turn off wifi and even data service itself to save energy. Although at that point you might as well just turn off the phone.
              But I wasn’t talking about system level shutdowns. I want talking about in comparison to your standard level of activity. If you have your GPS on for anything like maps or anything else, you aren’t going to see a noticeable difference with personal location sharing on.

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          not really a problem on modern phones. i got a fairphone 6 and my phone lasts the whole day with Bluetooth, GPS, NFC and whatnot all active

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      Mine does, but that only started after a severe hypoglycemic incident during which I have no memory of about 2 hours, drove about ten miles, wrecked my car, and was found on a sidewalk. EMT report says my sugar was unmeasurably low and it took an IV and oral gel to get it up to 35, which is where it was when my memory comes back coherently. First thing I remember at that point was the sting of the IV in my arm and then my finger, seeing the 35, the EMT noticing I was looking at him and getting a battery of general awareness questions.

      I would ask about the “again” on the chemical weapons in the toilet thing, but I was the kid that played with low grade explosives and chemistry “projects” at that age. Got annoyed when my homemade napalm was caustic enough it started to eat through the container I’d made it in.

      EDIT: Holy fuck my spelling was bad on this one.

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        So just cause I can’t tell this story very often. One time when I was hit in the head particularly hard in middle school when the teachers were trying to give general awareness questions one of the ones I was close to asked “Tell me about the Mycenaean Greece” because he knew I can unironically bullshit those questions in my actual sleep. So I rant for about 5 minutes look at my hands say give me a few and proceed to zone the fuck out for about 10 minutes before growling out “Aight and we’re back” which is around when I actually have memories of the incident.

        According to one of the security guys who basically had the job of keeping us from making chemical weapons in the toilet again, it was probably the most bizarre thing he had seen since Iraq. He was an Army medic veteran.

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          I would ask about the “again” on the chemical weapons in the toilet thing, but I was the kid that played with low grade explosives and chemistry “projects” at that age. Got annoyed when my homemade napalm was caustic enough it started to eat through the container I’d made it in.

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            The actual story is that a couple of guys broke into a cleaning locker that was in the bathroom (school was old had weird set up) wherein some of the dumber smart guys decided to mix ammonia and bleach in a toilet. Funny enough I was the source of that problem and also how it was noticed because I spread the knowledge of that particular bit of chemistry, and was laughing my ass off at the fact that the toilet was at that point actively hazard due to mustard gas.

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    Are people really this afraid of strangers? Last year I bought a bicycle from a woman, she sent me her address, I went there, it was just her and her baby waiting for me with the bicycle. Didn’t even kidnap her.

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      My neighbor was selling something, the person came over but either didn’t get it or saw something he liked became they came back and broke into their house to get it.

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        And yet their solution is to use a man for protection?

        Nothing wrong with that, I just think it’s a little one-sided to say “women are afraid of men” while ignoring the part where “women use men for safety.”

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            Why even make a fucking lamp in the first place? Weren’t regular lamps good enough as they were?

            You kids these days… back in my day, before leds, you would never even consider using a lamp for any kind of sexual act. Between the bulb melting your flesh, the risks of broken glass, and the risks of electrocution… Well it just wasn’t worth it.

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              well the led lamps are pretty handy butt flutes, but you don’t really care for music do ya?

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      Didn’t kidnap her yet. Now you know her address for a later date, without the pretext to incriminate you! I’m onto you, pal

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      That seems kind of like the standard procedure around here (Germany) too. When you sell something online, the expectation is always that the buyer comes to the sellers house to pick up the item. I’ve never seen anyone do that “let’s meet at this random parking lot” thing americans tend to do.

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        The police station in our town has a designated area for stuff like this. It’s lit and recorded 24/7. The police station itself is also open 24/7 for obvious reasons. It also shares the parking lot with city hall and a courthouse. Absolutely an American thing.

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        People are shity sometimes. I’m one that goes to an address if that’s the expectation. But there are items I almost never sell in person from my home, electronics being one.

        My mother had a garage sale (total American thing I’m sure) and was robbed a few weeks later by someone taking an unusual amount of time “shopping“ with her phone out. The gal was a fool, had recordings on her phone of her and the places she was going to rob with address. After a month or so of this, she was caught and her phone searched where they found 20+ videos of other houses where they looked at stuff that would make for easy theft from the garage.

        Lessons here are you need to decide who do you let in your home and I know it’s a lot to do with culture. Europe has some social support in place, the USA just says good luck and fuck off.

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          That is sad. Openly showing trust to the people around you (even if you have to take the first step and give someone the benefit of the doubt) creates the safest, most pleasant communities. Plus it’s just a massive hassle and mental strain to distrust everyone all the time.

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        My wife occasionally agrees to meet people if they live on the other side of the county and it’s going to take them an hour to get to our house.

        Usually people just come and pick up their items. We live suburbia though so maybe they feel “safer.”

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          they live on the other side of the county and it’s going to take them an hour to get to our house.

          Every now and again I’m reminded just how small some countries are, I drive 45min to work every day and I’m only one town over, meanwhile in 15 more minutes you can be on “the other side” of a whole country?

          Meanwhile the trip across the US with no stops and traffic will take me 1d 19hr for 2,544 mi (4094.171 km) (according to openstreetmaps).

          Edit: LOL I can’t read. It’s still true I suppose just not in this case haha.

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        Enjoy it man, that’s a privilege to have and it only takes 1 bad incident for it all to come crumbling down when the media blows it out of proportion and everyone goes on a witch hunt for minorities.

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            Don’t you remember the turning point of the 2002 Hartford kidnapping that turned the US society from a tolerant and inclusive society to a racist and violent hell?

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              Umm yes, now that you mention it, that was exactly it! Everything before and everything after didn’t matter!

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            You would think but wasn’t it in Germany that people went out attacking migrants in response to an incident where migrants were the perpetrators?

            All I’m saying is that you assume people will respond logically like yourself but in reality that’s rarely the case.

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              There were a few attacks by angry people. But who says that in Germany “a whole lot more” hasn’t happened? People are losing their jobs, capitalism is massively extracting people’s wealth, enshittification everywhere. “A whole lot more” than one incident is currently happening.

              All I’m doing is staying realistic. You saying “one incident is all it takes” is not literally true. It’s an exaggeration, not an entirely untrue one, but still.

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                  You’ve not offended anyone. Your feelings are valid. Humans are capable of terrible things, but on the whole, we live in an extremely peaceful society. There’s luckily so much more humans who do amazing things than terrible, unfortunately a few who do terrible is all it takes for the feeling of safety to crumble.

                  Even the majority of Germans who let national socialism happen aren’t all terrible. The absolute majority of them were just scared and ignorant and had a feeling of helplessness which is why they let it happen, but the actual agreement and horrible things were done by a minority of people. Same in other areas today where terrible things are happening.

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          Which is why I, as a professional guard baby, always bring a tennis ball and a kitten to expected kidnappings: to distract puppies and to distract the kidnapper with “dad with the kitten he said he didn’t want” moments.

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        How does this apply to the whole “gender roles are obsolete/archaic” thing?

        I’m not trying to be edgy, I’m just trying to understand how that idea meshes with “wife sends husband into potentially dangerous situation because the risk for him is lower”

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          Well if the person was a ftm trans man, who these days are basically impossible to differentiate from cis men, they probably would have been pretty safe. So gender isn’t obsolete per se, it’s just not immutable.

          And some people might want it to be obsolete, but society writ large is just not on board with that.

          Rapists will always prey on people who are more vulnerable than them. Things like prison rape show that a person’s genitals aren’t always a factor. Mtf trans people also get raped.

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            Nice deflection. I never claimed gender is immutable. You just brought cis/trans distinction into a discussion about man/woman.

            So gender isn’t obsolete per se

            So it’s only obsolete if we’re talking about cis men? Cause if you meant anything else by that, then why would you even bring it up? Is it obsolete or is it not obsolete?

            Don’t give me “per se,” cause that just leaves you room to carve out exceptions for anyone you don’t think is oppressed enough to deserve your sympathy or acknowledgement.

            Rapists will always prey on people who are more vulnerable than them. Things like prison rape show that a person’s genitals aren’t always a factor. Mtf trans people also get raped.

            Rape is an evil, vile, despicable thing to do to another person. That’s a bit of a red herring though, because my question was about how this topic reflects on gender roles. Cause it seems like the same people who want to say “gender roles are archaic and should be done away with” are in favor of sending a man into a situation where a woman might be in danger. But wouldn’t that make it a gender role?

            By the way, cis men get raped too. Using mtf as an example to show that a person’s genitals aren’t always a factor is akin to saying “Only women get raped.” Especially when combined with your statement that “Ftm would be pretty safe.” So what’s your agenda, to claim the world is ultimately safe for men?

            So are you saying men should do the dangerous stuff, fulfilling the gender role of “protector”? Because most feminists would be allergic to a statement like that. And yet here they are, saying “The world’s too dangerous for women, so they need to send men to do the dangerous stuff.”

            My only point one way or the other is that it displays a glaring inconsistency that needs to be examined. There’s no need to insert the cis/trans distinction into the mix; if gender roles are obsolete, then it doesn’t matter; and if they’re not then the only difference it makes is in how men or women perform their gender, and whether they’re cis or trans wouldn’t change that.

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              Nice deflection. I never claimed gender is immutable.

              I didn’t know we were having an argument, and I didn’t know I was even disagreeing with you, but OK.

              Are you doing alright? Maybe take a deep breath.

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    Bro can’t even text his wife that he isn’t coming straight back home? Wtf?

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          Even if you think this is inconsiderate, I’m going to break it to you, that that wouldn’t make it weird…

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            dont be weird

            that that wouldn’t be weird

            I literally don’t know what you’re attempting to communicate. Feel free to not bother clarifying.

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              I won’t, because this feels like a job your parents or perhaps infant schooling failed at - the experience of time passing is relative, and nobody is foremost in anyone else’s considerations all the time - and presumably at this point it would be useless.

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        Sure, but it’d be nice to let your wife know that you’re okay when you’re in a potentially dangerous situation lol

        Although the location sharing did help lol

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      Do you need to know where your partner is 24/7?! That feels suffocating. These people even have location sharing turned on and she knew he was at Buffalo Wild Wings before she even asked

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        It would be polite to text, that’s all. When you live with someone and they’re expecting you home with the item you went out to get, you should text if that’s not the case. No big deal but it’s a little rude not to.

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          But bro what the fuck! He literally can’t even! That sounds like a massive deal to me! People literally never forget things or get swept up in the moment! Wtf?

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              How do you know? Aren’t adults allowed to be overexcited? Are we supposed to lose excitement when becoming adults?

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                  The detriment of not updating someone else on your every move? Someone, who as you could see here, can very easily ask what’s up if they want and get an answer probably a few seconds later?

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        Checking my location is a less distracting way for my husband to know if I’m safely on my way home than texting or calling me while I’m driving. She might have thought his phone had been stolen because he hadn’t planned on getting wings.

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        I don’t think they were implying that at all. Instead imagine the situation where you send your spouse into a burning building and then they go out the back door and don’t call you. If the wife was afraid the seller was a murderer, this isn’t a case of needing to know where their partner is 24/7. It’s knowing where their partner is after what they view is a very unsafe situation.

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          Frankly, I can easily imagine them going “hey let’s got for a beer and see which one of our two paranoiacs freaks out first”.

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          One could argue that thinking the woman selling a lamp on Facebook marketplace is a murderer is an unusually paranoid thought

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          Maybe a lamp isn’t worth sending your husband to ‘certain death’ then. If you’re really that concerned about buying off FB marketplace just go to HomeGoods™ ffs, they’ve got lamps too.

          Guess that is more of an indication of her priorities, “a possible chance at a discount on this mass produced lamp is worth the chance that my husband literally dies.”

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            I was using an extreme example. She was afraid of being murdered, doesn’t mean that she is afraid of the same for her husband. All it means is that it’s a different situation. It has nothing to do with tracking your husband’s whereabouts 24/7

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        Sorry, pal, i wont fall for your moving goalposts.
        Your dumb comment isn’t even related to mine. Nice bait tho

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          Oh hey, have you guys heard of this thing called “lemmy”? It’s part of the fediverse. You might enjoy the memes!

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              I’m sad that that “no pooping” guy never explained himself.

              Maybe he was sacrificing his colon for the well-being of the fediverse.

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      I’m a burly, bearded, outdoorsy dude, and you can describe a lot of my friends in a similar way.

      Once upon a time, one such friend had a few trees on his property that needed to come down (damaged by storms, emerald ash borer, etc,) so he made a decision to have a “lumberjack day”

      The plan was simple, we’d all show up with axes and saws and other implements of destruction and cut down these trees and chop them up to manageable sizes.

      We also all kind of had the same idea that we’d show up in flannel shirts and suspenders in hopes that our one friend (coincidentally my now-wife, though we had not yet even begun to think about dating) who was sort of our unofficial group photographer, would show up with our camera, and we could get some cool shots of us being rugged badasses and maybe a group picture.

      Sadly, she had to work that day, so no pictures exist.

      I decided for this occasion that I wanted a big ol’ double-bit felling axe. It just seemed appropriate.

      Now I could have gotten one from a hardware store if I just wanted a prop, but I did want an actual usable axe. Most new axes you can easily get your hands on these days just aren’t that great unless you’re willing to shell out some decent money (they’re not outlandishly expensive, but certainly more than I could afford at the time as a 20-something pizza guy)

      Which meant that I’d be looking for a used axe. This was something I’d already been keeping my eye out for at yard sales and flea markets and such but unfortunately I was coming up empty. So with Lumberjack Day fast-approaching, I turned to craigslist.

      And sure enough, I found a guy selling axes. Quite a lot of axes in fact, I suspect this guy had been snatching them up from the same flea markets I’d been hunting at before I got a chance. He’d clean them up, hang a new handle if needed, and sell them. His sharpening skills left a bit to be desired, but I’m handy enough with a file and whetstone so that didn’t matter.

      We exchanged some messages, he sent me some pics of what he had, and we arranged a time for me to swing over to his house to buy an axe from him.

      So one Sunday morning I swerved over to his house, not thinking to tell anyone where I was going.

      From the pictures he sent, I kind of thought he had these axes in a shed or garage.

      Instead when I went there and knocked on his front door he invited me inside and told me the axes were in his basement.

      I step inside his living room, and this man had no furniture.

      We go down into the basement, and every wall and float surface is covered in axes (and some similar hand tools- hammers, hoes, picks, shovels, etc)

      I think this may have been some kind of serial killer’s lair.

      But, luckily, I did not get axe-murdered that day. Instead I checked out his wares, handed him $60, and walked out with a rather nice vaughan axe that was probably from around the '60s

      Took it out to my car, sat there for a minute considering my life choices, and went on my merry way.

      Then a week or two later I put that axe to good use at lumberjack day. It’s a good axe, I still have it and find some good excuses to use it from time-to-time.

      So anyway, he may possibly be a serial killer, but I do recommend Craigslist Andrew if you ever need to buy a decent used axe at a fair price.