I love learning, but I don’t like formal education (which is why I do online school - it’s mostly a formality, not much actual schooling). No career really appeals to me. I honestly just want to be a housewife. Thankfully, I have my family’s unconditional support, so I would never have to depend on a man.
As a person who has two kids and does a lot of playing and house work, if that’s what you love then do it. But fuck, I prefer the cubicle.
My kids are great, but everything is so repetitive and mandatory. Laundry HAS to get done. Shopping. Cleaning. Cooking. Even when you’re sick because your partner has their responsibilities too. You don’t get a lot of autonomy.
It’s a lot.
My mum says she still does not know what she want to be when she grows up. She is now a retiree.
No one likes formal education. Most people have to do it to make a living.
I recommend continuing to learn skills, trying new things, volunteering, etc. Parents seem supportive so that’s great. Just be able to support yourself independently because nothing is guaranteed. Especially how people will treat you as you get older.
I’m definitely like that as well - even when I was pursuing my Master’s degree I was dreaming of retirement. I eventually found an easy, well-paying job that lets me work from home, so I’m set.
The issue for me was that, like many Americans, I tied my identity to my career, so I felt embarrassed that I wasn’t motivated enough to have something interesting to report in my work life. That led to me being unmotivated in seeking out non-work-related activities as well, like hanging out with friends or trying new hobbies. I just sat around wasting my life simply because I didn’t want to do anything with my job.
Eventually I realized that my life and my job were separate things, and that I could have as engaging of a life as I want without needing to have an engaging career. Now I pursue hobbies that interest me, and I spend time with friends and family, and when someone asks “So, what do you do?” I give them a nothing answer because that means nothing to me.
It’s totally fine to not have any career goals, but ask yourself whether that means you want to have no goals at all, or whether you’re making the incorrect assumption that your career is your life. Maybe you’ve already figured all this stuff out, and have a list of things you want to do in life that have no relation to your job, but this revelation was a big turning point for me, so I felt like I should share, just in case.
I’ve never had any dream job or aspirations on getting to a high level. I sort of ended up being a truck driver, then I sort of accidentally started my own car mechanic business, I got enough of that and returned to truck driving.
I love history, I read all the time. I’ve been writing a history book, mostly for my own enjoyment. If I finish it, I’ll probably print a small amount of it and force them on my friends and family.
I don’t think its important to have career targets or goals but I do feel like its important to do something. If you have the means and finances to just hang out and learn stuff on your own, thats great. But with that freedom comes the risk of sort of closing yourself out of the world. Having a job or a hobby that gets you out of the house will keep that from happening.
I’ve never met someone who decided to write a history book as a hobby. Just wanted to say that’s awesome, hopefully you can make it accessible online to other history buffs who may enjoy it!
There’s actually a surprising amount of people doing that haha. I’ve been lurking in writer groups and forums, I’d say about 10-15% of amateur writers do history stuff :)
You want to be a housewife but not depend on a man? How does that work?
If it goes wrong, I have backup and can move on without putting up with any shit.
At least based on your other post… it seems like a pretty good deal for somebody.
Thankfully, I have my family’s unconditional support
Bruh how rich is your family? How many yachts you got?
Kidding
But like yea I get asked a lot “what do you wanna be when you grow up”… and like… I can’t remember how I even answered it…
At one point, I wanna be a game designer…
Then I want a small shop to fix electronics…
Then I wanted to be a programmer or something in IT…
Now I’m a puddle of depression 🫠
I’m financially dependent…
I think I’m just gonna learn how they run their bussiness… and stuff… and take over…
Hopefully I don’t get disowned and cut off lol
I wanna be a writer…
Having their assets would be a huge help since I’d have financial stability and have time to actually do any writing…
(Sorry for the rambling… perhaps I’m not fit to be a writer at all lmao…)
Nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife.
Also, most people find their career ambition later into adulthood. Not sure your age but allow yourself the freedom to have different wants in the future.
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“Discover What You Are Best At” by Linda Gail. A series of self tests assess your skills and a list of jobs that use your skills.
It pointed me at a career I’d never even considered.
I always thought that I just hated working, I found out that having the right job makes all the difference.
You didn’t write your age, but I assume you’re around 18 from your username and the description. I’m in my late twenties, and working as a software developer. It took me most of my twenties of just trying different things, and studying on and off, before I figured out what direction to go in career wise. It’s worked out well for me in the end, but I am completely open to changing my mind and changing course later, in case I no longer like it, or I wanna do something else. Like you, no particular career really had a strong appeal to me when I was a teenager. That’s fine. I don’t think it matters a great deal what, specifically, you do at the start of adulthood. What matters is that you do something. Whether that’s pursuing a degree, or working some random job, or trying to start your own business, or traveling to do volunteer work, etc. If you wanna be a housewife, I’m sure you’ll find a partner you can do that with eventually. But until then, I think you’d be denying yourself of a lot of personal growth by not taking on some form of full time occupation (once you’re done with school, of course). Basically, you’ll figure out the specifics as you go along, and you’ll probably find out what career appeals you to when you’ve tried a few types of jobs.
I don’t know how normal it is, but you’re not alone. Parenthood was my primary inspiration. I have a job, I make decent money, I even like my job, but it’s just a job, and I have no plans to climb a ladder or seek promotion.
Yes. Look around you.
Just, Look Around You.
I’m with the other commentator - you sound young. Nothing wrong with that, but our brains don’t fully form until 27.
When I turned 27, the pop of me pulling my head out of my ass was heard by rural farmers in India. I’m now 40, and I wish I knew now what I knew then, so badly.
This is a very long winded way to say, don’t paint yourself into a corner with dislike of formal education. Figure out what it’s about it that you don’t like and work to find a way to address or at least cope with it. Online courses are fine to learn things but they aren’t widely recognized by employers, should you wish to work.
One of the things I learned and pass on to my mentees is that it’s often the experience we don’t like that’s the most valuable. That doesn’t mean suffer unnecessarily, but if you are in a tough spot learn what you can from it. In my case, I hated working with contactors, but that work is what got me a much better job where I’m home all the time.
Think about the best version of yourself and what that looks like. What are the major goals you need to meet to get there? What are those goals broken down into? How do you know if you met your smaller goals? Your objective (best version) is met though sequential steps and measurable progress
I mostly wanted a job where I make decent money, and have a solid work-life balance.
I work on fire alarm systems.
