• dingus@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    Yeah I’ve always thought it was weird that women are supposed to give up their identity to a man to be married. I’m not really sure why hyphenated names aren’t as popular in the western world or why people don’t occasionally chose to take the woman’s name. I know that women don’t have to change their names, but then often you’ll have the kids as the same name as the father anyway but not the mother. So I’ve heard many women say that they did it so their kids would share their last name.

    Hell, I don’t even like my father. But my name is who I am and I like it.

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      7 days ago

      The way that I’m gonna do it is whoever has the coolest/most unique last name is the one whose name is adopted. If they’re both equally cool, then hyphenated it is.

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      Hyphenated names are too long. One of my good friends has one and people just refer to him and his siblings by the initials of their last name, like “Tim MP”

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      7 days ago

      How do hyphenated names work after the next generation? Seems like that would get out of hand quickly when people with hyphenated last names start having kids with each other.

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      7 days ago

      It is weird because we as a civilization believe women are persons and corporations are not. And sooner or later, Molotovs will be thrown in support of this notion, since silence is being interpreted as consent.

      Whoops. That was my outside voice.🪀🪀💣🪀

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          The reason women take their husband’s name is because they’re property, and rights to their person transfers from their father to their husband.

          That’s it.

          And right now (at least in the States, maybe in some parts of Europe) there are large far-right movements trying to return society to those days.

          Find your crew or your fam, and have them give you your given name. Then choose your surname. Break free.

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      7 days ago

      Been divorced twice, neither of them gave much of a shit and never changed their surname back. My wife’s Filipino and was very proud to take my surname. Ran right out and changed all her documents. Her enthusiasm was touching!

      I’m in the opposite place! Met my dad when I was 20 and he really wanted me to change to his surname. Sorry dad, that would have felt really weird.