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No, this isn’t logical at all. Even queer people have unsatisfying hookups for various reasons.
Being queer isn’t just about enjoying a certain type of sex, it’s about being attracted to a certain type of person. If you’re questioning being straight, presumably it’s because you think some men are kind of attractive. Find a man like that, meet up with him, and see how things go.
Picking a guy on grindr and only describing him as “kinda feminine” isn’t how you get to enjoyable sex. Where is the initial attraction that you’d feel if you’re into men? The buildup of sexual tension that you’d feel if you’re compatible? The discovery of how different types of sex acts feel? You need to go through these steps to actually find pleasure. I’m surprised that so many comments on this post don’t seem to understand this.
Absolutely yes IMO. Straight is not the same as never experimenting. A test run makes sense if you aren’t sure. He fucked and found out quite literally.
Now you need to try bottoming to see if you don’t like that. Maybe what you hate is being the top 🤷🏻♂️
Its the only way to be sure!
You need to top and bottom at least once for a valid opinion.
Right, what if that prostate massage has your legs all shakey?
You could still not be gay, just into pegging.
Pegging doesn’t feel as good as the real thing, though. I would rather have a real penis in me than a plastic rod with a rubber penis over it, and I’m not gay.
Idk, sounds pretty gay. Or at least bi. But what do I know.
Many pegging tools don’t look like a penis. No head, no buldges, etc. Just a curved cylinder with a half spherical top. Just to hit to prostate, and that’s it.
Fun fact this is how I learned a coworker pegged her husband. He wasn’t gay, but had no interest in topping her either. C’est la vie.
I don’t know why, but it seems weird to call it topping when it’s hetero. It’s like cultural appropriation or something.
True! And what a way to find out you’re into pegging.
You need to do it regularly for several months at least to really understand the culture and determine if it’s right for you.
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I mean, it’s still accurate as to whether you like performing murder. You might not like murder as an idea or as a thing that people do, but until you try a murder, you don’t know whether you will enjoy the act of murdering.
Oh fuck now I’m confused. I don’t know what I should do this weekend, eat some broccoli, fuck a dude or murder someone.
Ohhhh I think I have a plan…
I’ve read all of the comments, at this point, and absolutely no one is actually replying to the question OOP posed. It’s impossible to get a straight answer out of any of you.
Glad I slogged through that until I got to the pun. Nice work!
Is that a joke?
Logical enough. I did nearly the same thing.
Hooked up with a couple. Was more attracted to the girlfriend even though boyfriend was more enthusiastic and attentive in bed.
I’m lesbian.
Friend of mine (m) and his then gf had a threesome with a woman and both him and his gf realised they were gay during that threesome.
sounds like the hook for a movie
I am straight, so i’d have to first have sex with a woman to figure out if i dont like it, THEN try with a dude to see if thats better.
This is logical and healthy imo. To be straight does not have to mean absolutely hating any sort of gay sex, just not being into it. I think that society makes as believe that straight means the absolute opposite of gay, when really all sexual preferences are one big spectrum and you can be a straight man who is willing to try gay things but not enjoying them.
I think it’s valid either way. “I’m not attracted to men, thus I’m straight” is as valid as “tried it, didn’t like it, thus I’m straight”
And works the other way around too, I imagine many people who define themselves gay have had romantic or sexual experiences with the opposite sex, but didn’t like it.
Agreed. I’ve kissed two boys as like dares but didn’t like it and I can acknowledge a guy is hot without being turned on by them so I think I’m comfortably on the straight side of the spectrum.
An ex (casual) once told me about her ex that “He needed to suck enough dicks to realize that it wasn’t for him.” A little on the crass side, maybe, but she wasn’t judging him for it and it’s perfectly valid. We’ve only got one life to live and not experimenting with one’s sexuality, if so inclined, is kinda silly.
Gay people often have straight sex when they are unsure about their sexuality. As society becomes less homophobic I’d expect more straight guys to experiment with other guys.
Although… having a disappointing hookup with some rando doesn’t sound not gay.
If a man does anything that’s not approved by the strict regulation of the council of his male friends then they are gay. Its simple, there is no need to over complicate it by introducing sex.
My friends said it’s only gay if our balls touch.
That is the standard definition.
Well there’s also keeping your socks on, not making eye contact or saying “no homo” just afterwards too. So I’d say that there’s no “standard definition” but many variants.
A man is also gay (and has a small penis) if he rejects the advances of a femcel. At least according to femcels.
Men are also gay for going down on women, for some reason.
Calm down DJ Khaled.
Damn! I must be a massive queen then.
I’ve been around a while and that’s a new one on me.
This explains a lot
As someone who has done a similar experiment (though only making out) I feel like this guy is gayer than myself because I don’t think I could stay turned on or motivated enough to fuck a dude effectively, even a very fem one.
That being said I feel like gay is supposed to mean “attracted to other men” not “not-overtly-repulsed by sex with another man”
There are asexual people who can and do still have sex because they aren’t sex repulsed. Those people are still asexuals, just like asexuals who are sex repulsed are asexuals.
It’s less about what you do and more about why you’re doing it that makes it gay. Are you attracted to other men? No? Then I guess it’s not necessarily gay.
Gay sex isn’t gay? The boys group chat was right all along??
I mean… masturbation for men means touching male genitalia. You’re not bothered by that. So why be so bothered by other male genitalia?
I had a few gay experiences as a teenager. I had fun, but I never dreamed of it, unlike with girls. Even a whiff of some girly sweat mixed with like the intoxicating smell of some girls hair could make me wank off to them for days. But never replayed the experiences with my male friend in my head when looking for sexual excitation.
But the gay experiences were more like “I wonder what a blowjob feels like”. Zero sexual innuendo or romance or lust or infatuation or anything.
Just two friends getting each other off for a novel experience.
Wasn’t really my thing. But I’m fairly confident I’m more confident I’m not gay than most guys, having explored that aspect and found it to really not be my thing.
Did the same with most drugs as well. Tried em all in my youth, but now I only use weed and alcohol.
How you know this is legit: if he’d been talking about any dating app other than grindr step 6 would look like 'wait 6 weeks to get a match, get ghosted, get depressed, go to bed mumbling about ‘who needs sex anyway?’.
