• gerryflap@feddit.nl
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    I’ve had a colleague say that tea is “homo water”. I’m aro/ace, but most of my colleagues don’t know that. Similarly a straight colleague of mine got mocked for wearing pink (but not feminine) shoes. After some of these incidents we’ve kinda started pushing back against this nonsense by deliberately triggering these people and calling them out, which has worked so far.

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    As a kid I was told if you eat scrambled eggs for dinner you are gay. It affected me longer than I care to admit.

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    In jr. high i was called gay because I dressed semi decent. Jeans with a t-shirt a blazer was apparently too much for them lol

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    I would recommend that anyone concerned with privacy either use a burner account or not answer these kinds of questions.

    While statistically I’m sure there are many straight men here, doxxing and other forms of identification are enabled by combining different breadcrumbs of information.

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      Sssssuuuuuuurrrrre…

      But I really don’t think Lemmy is big or widespread enough for people to recognize each other based on random info and a username.

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        Doxxing generally happens because someone wants to identify you, not because random people accidentally figure out who you are. A doxxer will attempt to extract details from your account’s comment history and see if you have other accounts based on username or specific references.

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        Your question is for “straight males”, so those answering it are implicitly saying, " I am a straight male".

        This is a subset of the population, so if you wanted to identify a user here, this would be a ckue. It would be useless on its own, but I’d they share more clues over time, they may reveal themselves accidentally to someone trying to fix them. Examples:

        • The city or state they live in.

        • Their age range.

        • Their ethnic identity.

        Just that much info, which people will easily expose if they answer questions like this, could be enough to identify someone. There are only so many straight 23 year old dudes from Guam living in a particular suburb of Baltimore.

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    Use chapstick

    Read a book in public

    Not go to gym

    Play certain more “feminine” games

    Those off the top of my head. I live in a nation of backwards idiots, so there for sure are more

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      Use chapstick

      How I get around that: Wait until my girl uses hers, then kiss her.

      It’s a bit of a running meme between us.

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      Use chapstick

      My first exposure to Big Bang Theory was the scene where they make fun of one of their friends for “wearing lip gloss” and refusing to call it chapstick. It was so weird and toxic and I assumed it was a gay panic joke before finding out it was the nerd show I was avoiding. Fucking terrible show.

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        Chapstick and lip gloss are different where I’m at. Chapstick is a thick paste stick like beeswax consistancy, and Lip Gloss is a roller tip with liquid inside.

        One goes on matte and one is Glossy

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    Sucking my best friend’s dick. I’m sorry, but if my friend is having a bad day, giving him a bro-job is not gay.

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      I’m generally skeptical of comments on the internet, so almost every time I have read comments like this one that you’re reading right now, I’ve been like “yeah right”. Kinda like how “lol” means “laughing out loud” but when you read it online you don’t really expect whoever wrote “lol” to have laughed out loud? Anyway, I was drinking coffee, I read your comment, I snorted in laughter, and now my white shirt is full of coffee.

      I guess I’m also kinda mad at myself for laughing so hard at such a silly joke. Regardless, have an updoot 👍

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      And up to the first knuckle, you don’t have to jam soap up there but wash your nasty ass if you expect anyone to not gag when they get near your crotch.

      Some of yall are nasty.

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    Playing tennis.

    In jr high I had some friends who played football say my other friends and I on the tennis team were gay for playing tennis.

    I had to point out to them that the tennis team was co-ed and we regularly made out with our female teammates on the long bus rides to tournaments.

    While those on the football team were constantly manhandling each other, showering together and slapping each other on the ass to say “good game.” But the tennis team are the gay ones?

    They got mad, but dropped it.

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    Choosing the urinal next to another man.

    Really feels kinda gay, though, especially when the dude next to you squints over.

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      This isnt even a gay thing, this is a social and privacy/personal space issue. Don’t pick stalls that are far apart because “it’s gay,” do it because other people might feel uncomfortable being near other human beings period (might get stabbed or robbed, might get harassed, or might just have extreme social anxiety - the most likely) while their privates are exposed and they’re in the middle of something.

      Unless there are huge dividers between each one. Then it doesnt matter as much.

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        If dividers weren’t shorter than most moderately tall dudes I wouldn’t care but I’ve caught one to many weirdos taking a peek over the wall to ever be comfortable with someone in the next urinal.

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      I’d rather choose the stalls than pee next to another guy. Especially if there’s no divider or a low divider that is practically useless

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        Same. It’s not even a sexual thing, I just have a shy bladder and physically cannot make myself go if I can feel someone else’s presence nearby, even if it’s not a stranger.

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    One time in high school, I heard somebody yell “Steve, you [bundle of sticks], stop talking to your girlfriend and let’s go!” and Steve was in fact at the time talking to his girlfriend.

    The sheer concentration of cognitive dissonance has stuck with me to this day.