I enjoy the posts, I’ve just always assumed this is another user doing a bit though — which is fine
All the better if there is a real person behind this, it gives me some hope for the younger generation, and I hope nothing you encounter here makes you regret sharing who you are and what you’re going through.
But you’re in a community that is skewing older and more early-internet, and thus most of us find it prudent to pretty much assume every identity in a community like this is partially or largely fake. I am, for example, a 4 year old Australian Shepherd in real life and my human has no clue.
Real or fake, I enjoy my game of “Stamets or Violet” every time I see a horny or uncouth post.
On the internet everyone knows you’re a dog if you’re from pawb.social at least.
Looks concerningly regardless of instance
Well a useful tip is that I don’t post in this community or to any Lemmy.world communities anymore lol
I, for one, still believe Stamets and Violet are the same person. Have you ever seen them in the same room together at the same time?? Checkmate!
This is like the second or third time I’ve seen this Stamets person mentioned, as if everyone knows who they are, but I’m clueless. I figure I’d better ask now before it gets even more awkward - who is Stamets and what’s their deal?
I’ve responded to and had Stamets comment on some of my posts. Don’t know anything about Violet
https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/u/Stamets
Idk what his deal is officially, just that if I find a meme especially relatable on a neurospicy level, it’s him 9/10 times. And that he kinda likes Star Trek.
Hi.
I post a lot.
I started posting about 3 years ago to another instance before moving to lemmy.world and then shifting over to lemmy.dbzer0.com. I’m gay and a massive die hard Star Trek fan. I also post a fucking lot, way more in the past that I currently do. The things that I do post to shitpost communities are pretty gay or pretty horny and have similar vibes to the stuff that Violet apparently posts.
I’ve been called a power user (which I hate), a lemmy celeb (which I hate even more) and an asshole (which is accurate). Someone also accused me of being Gallowboob (a very prominent redditor) once which was kinda funny. I’m just a known quantity.
Neat! A pleasure to make your acquaintance.
I’m straight and not much of a Trekkie, so that might be how I’ve failed to notice your posting thus far, but I do love a good shitpost! I vibe with your feelings about being a power user or lemmy celeb, and being a reddit refugee I find it amusing that you were accused of being Gallowboob!
You’ll never know either
American/christianism puritanism at its best.
We’ve been taught that violence is fine, every human is violent and, in some cases, it’s even a good thing. But god forbid you manifest sexual desires in public!
Like… mate, do you realize that violence only brings pain while sex brings pleasure?
Then you realize that the whole point of both is to make your life miserable and things start making sense.
Sex brings pleasure and consequences in children/std or even physical injuries. Also sex is largerly overrated when we have videogames and anime.
You should try having good sex once or twice, and then get back to us.
Something tells me they’re incapable of that
That’s difficult when doctors amputated all your best sensory receptors shortly after birth.
Yay for foreskins! Or are we talking about the far more barbaric female circumcision?
I’m just commenting from personal experience.
Well, I suppose I am as well. Yay for foreskins! I’m glad my parents elected to leave mine right where it is, despite the societal pressures at the time.
“Religion demands it” is not an excuse for child genital mutilation to be legal. Freedom of religion includes freedom from religion. The government must never pass religion-motivated laws nor use religion as a reason or excuse to do something nor as a reason against something. I personally would rather have the government ban religion than involve it in laws (but the ideal would be it doing neither).
The child did not consent. The parents’ consent counting as consent by the child is bullshit.
Also the practice includes intersex erasure: children lucky enough to be born fully androgynous are immediately mutilated, usually by removing the male parts.
I mean, I got the snip snip at birth, I am not pleased about that, but also, hasn’t stopped me from having (responsible) fun.
… Unless you are talking about female ‘circumcision’, in which case…
… Yeah ok, you got a point with that one.
But if you are a dude, unless they really royally botched things up, then I’d maybe try some different kinds of stimulation, perhaps in different places, to uh… see what really gets your juices flowing.
Hey, just a suggestion: Maybe listen and understand somebody’s life experience before starting with the advice? This is about the same energy as telling ADHD people to just focus more, or depressed people to smile.
Just like brains, bodies differ. I’ve seen other men on Reddit and Lemmy state that their primary physical sensation comes from the foreskin. A gay friend of mine has met several men who are the same way. It’s not so crazy to believe that some women can orgasm from penetration alone, while many can’t, so maybe men’s bodies vary, too?
I’m glad to hear that your dick works after circumcision. Not everybody is so lucky.
Jumping Jesus on a Pogo-Stick! For someone that claims to have lost their best sensory receptors, you sure are a touchy little sonofa. I’d tell you to grow a thicker skin, but I’m sure you’ll take it the wrong way and cry about it.
Who’s touchy here?
Well the best sex happens when you and your partner both love each other so it might not be very feasible for them if they behave the same IRL as here.
Unlike wars and violence that bring pleasure without consequences to the rich fucks who send kids to kill themselves for them.
Certainly, we should have more wars and less sex, it only makes sense, right?
False equivalence. Are you American or what?
No.
Have you heard of this these things called condoms?
Or birth control?
Or fleshlights and vibrators?
…Did you ever take a sex ed class, or no?
STDs are not 100% prevented by condoms, and STIs are not prevented at all. The more sex partners you have, the bigger the odds you’ll have consequences.
Toys as substitute to what, physical contact? Having a partner?
Consequences is just a wild thing to say.
When I get a cold no one jumps on my shit for having to live with the consequences of going outside. They say sorry to hear you’re sick feel better
Actions have consequences, what a weird concept. Being outside in the cold in light clothes have consequences with increased chance to catch cold.
Nobody would tell you to live with the consequences cause it’s not permanent, several days at home and you are fine.
Hahaha this guy thinks cold weather causes colds
The only way to 100% prevent colds is to be around other people as little as possible. If you chose to be around people you choose to get colds.
Sounds ridiculous, but that’s the logic you’ve used
aren’t STDs and STIs just 2 different terms for the same thing?
Sort of, kind of, its a bit complicated.
https://www.verywellhealth.com/std-vs-sti-5214421
STDs start as sexually transmitted infections (STIs). An infection occurs when a sexually transmitted bacterium, virus, or microbe enters the body and starts multiplying. Once established, the infection can develop into a disease, known as an STD.
Although this distinction can be made, most health authorities, like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), use the terms interchangeably. The American Sexual Health Association mentions a shift toward using “STI,” but there’s no consensus in the medical and public health community.3
…
STIs are infections caused by bacteria, viruses, or parasites.6 They’re usually transmitted during sexual activity through an exchange of bodily fluids or skin-to-skin contact where the infection is active.
STIs can also be transmitted through non-sexual activities involving the exchange of bodily fluids. For instance, sharing needles can spread the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). Kissing on the mouth can transmit some STIs, though it generally poses a low risk for most.
STDs are diseases that result from STIs. All STDs start out as infections. Pathogens, which are disease-causing organisms such as viruses and bacteria, enter the body and begin multiplying. When these pathogens disrupt normal body functions, they produce diseases.
It’s important to note that some STIs may never develop into diseases. For example, most human papillomavirus (HPV) cases go away on their own without causing health problems. However, HPV can produce genital warts or cervical cancer, which are diseases.
Then you also have things like yeast infections, which on their own are not STDs, are not typically considered STIs…
… but are fairly commonly mistaken as such.
But, the distinction between STIs and STDs is fairly new, and seems to be mostly a US centric thing.
… Or you can have sex with people who both use protection, and … go to the doctor at least once or twice a year, and include an STD/STI screen in their checkups.
You know, actually knowing the people you’ve had sex with?
I’ve had sex with between 10 and 20 different partners, depending on precisely what you categorize as ‘sex’.
Some flings, some serious relationships.
Did this with all of them.
No STDs/STIs, for any of us.
Even if you do have certain STIs/STDs, there are ways that you can greatly reduce the risk of transmission, manage things.
I bring up toys because you bring up injuries, games, and anime.
There are a lot of different kinds of toys and other sex aides that can make sex easier and/or less likely for anybody to injure themselves, for a wide variety of potential injuries and body types, sex positions.
Also, while sure toys are not the same thing as a partner, I’d argue that they’re more sexually satisfying than just looking at game or anime, and there’s a good deal of evidence that its unhealthy to not orgasm at least semi-regularly, when you’re younger, for both your mind and body.
And also, toys can be used by or with partners, even remotely, and we are now at the point where sex toys essentially are or can be video game controllers, basically, can output uh, sensations, and can also input your ‘commands’.
You can orgasm without a partner. Same goes for toys. That’s not sex. It’s not even unusual for asexual people do all that.
Limiting amount of partners to single digits or even just one reduces the odds of issues drastically. It’s not a religious thing.
Y’all look like those teens that got to live separately from their parents to start eating sweets 100% time instead of normal food cause it’s tastier. Fun for a while. Bad idea in the long run.
You can orgasm without a partner. Same goes for toys. That’s not sex. It’s not even unusual for asexual people do all that.
And you can orgasm safely with a partner, if you are educated about sex, understand your own body, your partner’s body, follow best practices, and those involved are honest with each other.
And yes, its not even unusual for asexual people to do that.
And I would argue it is generally much, muuuuch more interesting and enjoyable to orgasm with a person, who at the very least is excited by the prospect of being part of that, than it is to jerk off or flick your bean on your own.
Hell, a lot of women don’t even know what an orgasm feels like, because women have different possible modes of actually getting to a climax, many are capable of different kinds of orgasms, and many of them just can only/most reliably reach orgasm by a means that would require a partner or a toy.
As an example: ‘the G Spot’. Different women have differently sized snd shaped ‘spots’, some just basically don’t meaningfully have one, some can basically only climax when g spot stimulation is involved, for others, the g spot stimulation is basically inconsequential.
Limiting amount of partners to single digits or even just one reduces the odds of issues drastically. It’s not a religious thing.
Don’t think I ever said it was religious thing, so uh, sure, ok.
And … I mean yes, less sex you have with people is strictly speaking less likely to land you with an STI STD, extremely broadly.
But safe sex is a thing, and it isn’t really that hard to do between two moderately intelligent, trustworthy, consenting adults.
Its also pretty easy to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, unless you or the place you live has some sort of ‘religious thing’ impeding that.
Y’all look like those teens that got to live separately from their parents to start eating sweets 100% time instead of normal food cause it’s tastier. Fun for a while. Bad idea in the long run.
… I’m in my 30s.
I’ve had boring sex and extremely interesting sex, and that’s actually not been significantly linked to me and my partner’s age… it has much more to do with sexual compatibility, being into the same kinds of things, communication styles.
I’ve also just been single, as in alone, without any sex, for spans of years between me being 16 and how old I am now.
Personally, I would not advocate just trying to max out your body count ASAP just for the sake of doing that.
I’ve just had a number of relationships that lasted for a while, were good for a while, didn’t work out in the end, mixed with some periods of just dating around very casually for a while, mixed with some periods of just focusing on myself.
You’re thinking of someone who is 18 and has already had 10 to 20 sexual partners, someone who is in their 20s and has had 50 to 80 partners or something like that.
Yeah, sure, that’s maybe getting to the point where you are significantly impacting your ability to long term pair bond with a person.
But those kinds of people are actually pretty darn rare, roughly less than 5% of even the most promiscuous Western societies.
What is much, much more common is for people to greatly exagerate the number of partners they’ve had, because either they think it makes them sound cool, or they’re in a social group which praises that, or both.
But even still: Some people just don’t want a permanent partner, never did and never will, just like how some people don’t ever want to have kids or start a family.
so you’re saying instead of bombing countries we don’t like we should organize an orgy in the magnitude of hundreds of millions of people? fair enough
… Seems like its worth a try.
Make love, not war
The comments on this are a roller coaster. One of those ones that flips upside down and shit.
Instructions unclear. Sex expected. Rage building.
is this a real thing? like…do people really get so sexually charged they reach out to strangers for sex?
just jerk off into the toilet like a normal person and go about your day.
I mean, yes. The human touch is excellent for stuff like sexting and erp with strangers on the internet. But also, that’s what hookups are.
hookups are two consenting individuals.
reaching out to a stranger that hasn’t given consent or worse, just sending dick pics, is just weird.
Ah I interpreted reaching out to strangers more broadly as including going to places where it’s normal and expected behavior to pursue strangers for sex.
Dick pics I’ve just always assumed were about power like catcalling.
that I can agree with.
nobody should be upset about getting hit on at a bar, because it’s a social gathering place generally used for hookups.
but it’s perfectly acceptable to get upset if you’re hit on at work.
If rule34 and horny sub/community comments are to be believed, then yes. I genuinely can’t understand why people wanna have phone sex with randos on image boards, but sure I guess. I always thought it was the ace in me, but thankfull others see it too I guess.
Goddamn, I love when you give me orders.
Would you wanna bone?
only if you’re ok using quartz sand as lube.
That’s just sex on the beach, baby. Sold!
Turns out Anakin betrayed Palpatine because the latter blew up the wrong planet…
It’s also silly how men can’t be hyperfemminine in this modern society…
i dunno, i do that all the time
Femboys are my favorite kind of men uwu
same :3
Hi, I upvoted your post, so when’s the wedding? 😏
Step back. I’ve upvoted quite a few of Violet’s posts therefore we are obviously going to meet later, do The Sex ™, then go out for cheese sandwiches!!!
How the fuck did he get grilled cheese in here‽
Yeah, natural selection really made sure men are as horny as possible didn’t it? Fortunately there are ways to learn how to mitigate it somewhat by being more self reflective and such.
Fortunately there are ways to learn how to mitigate it somewhat by
Most men aren’t smart enough or wealthy enough to become surgeons, but that’s an interesting idea.
I was thinking more sausage harvest, but unironically being in medical school looks to be pretty effective birth control. Dude ain’t gonna have time to put his dick into his own hand, let alone harassing women for favors.
If you need surgery to not assume you get to stick your dick into whoever looks at you kindly…
You can be who ever you want, I don’t believe you though.
I don’t believe that anyone on the internet is who they say they are.
It’s not really bothering me, you can be you, or be the character you’re playing or whatever, it’s all good.
If you want to be believed though, you would need to prove it in some way. And no I don’t mean by posting nudes or lewd content, it’s an easy enough thing to provide evidence for in a sfw way that protects your privacy.
Again, it’s not important that you prove it, but you won’t be believed until you do. Your posts are changing from being funny memes to being semi aggressive taunts about your identity. It seems like for you the question of your identity is a game for you and something that you’re using for attention. You can have whatever identity you want to have, but maybe try to stick to being funny and interesting and not whatever this new dynamic is.
If OP is who she says she is, she’s better off not proving who she is. Probably best for a young woman to not put a face to her name online if she’s making a bunch of sexual posts. People can be nasty.
At the end of the day it doesn’t really matter if she’s actually a woman or not, since it’s highly unlikely any of us is meeting her in person ever.
Your posts are changing from being funny memes to being semi aggressive taunts about your identity. It seems like for you the question of your identity is a game for you and something that you’re using for attention
Alternative hypothesis: People get angry when you call them liars, and people yell when they get angry.
Dude, this is weird as fuck. Go touch grass.
What kind of incel ass reaction is this to a woman posting a meme that basically says “You can give me positive feedback but I am not obliged to fuck you”?
Holy fuck dude…
Reminder: don’t reply to the comment, they’re probably trolling.
OK but like, what does it matter? Why does to matter who or what @violet08 is? At the end of the day it’s a bit, and a funny one when rubes like you keep getting so invested in it that you write essays like this. It’s like a comedic blacklight for showing how people feel about women.
If I had a nickel for every time someone wrote a relatively long comment analyzing my online behavior on here, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it happened twice.
It’s weird that someone replied to your post seeking attention about your identity? Only one of my sentences analyzed your behavior. The rest were a response to your post from the point of view of the average person.
Now it just seems like you’re absolutely trolling if you’re going to try to mock people who reply.
It’s funny, comments like yours are exactly what I had in mind when I made this post in the first place. People can go wild with assumptions about my identity, but if I play into it for fun, suddenly I’m “seeking attention”? When men post like I do, people interact with the content; but when a woman posts, her entire behavior gets dissected and assumptions are made just to discredit her, no matter how harmless the content is.
And I wasn’t mocking anyone.
Yes, this is attention seeking behavior lol. You are making posts about yourself, about what you’re up to each day, about opinions that you imagine people have of you.
You have created this strawman argument that anyone questioning that you are who you are wants you to post nudes or something.
You know what you’re doing, lol, no need to be evasive about it.
This is the internet, we are all bots here. There is no such thing as identity.
Calling it “attention-seeking behavior” ignores the fact that this is just my posting style. You can go all the way back in my post history where I explicitly say I have a stream-of-consciousness approach: something crosses my mind, I look through my Insta saves for a meme that fits, and I share it.
Men never get asked to prove that they’re men or questioned like this.
Your posting style seeks attention. It is currently entertaining.
“Men don’t get asked for the same reason as someone saying they habe a cat or dog as a pet gets asked, odds are high that is the case because most pets are cats or dogs and most people vocal about themselves on the internet happen to be men.”
-Albert Einstein
You have created this strawman argument that anyone questioning that you are who you are
I have a question. It’s about this part:
questioning that you are who you are
Why does this matter?
You are somebody who believes that there is no such thing as identity on the Internet, so why even ask this question? What’s the point? What changes about life if this question goes unanswered?
Probably because it’s so rare, that it freaks men out. Please be mindful of us cavemen, who are afraid of things we have never seen before.
You are scaring the cave people!
I’m sorry, but you’re being so obnoxious here. If you’re that upset why not just block a person and move on?
It’s not even targeted at me and I’m getting annoyed
How many creepy dms do you get per week?
All of them
I like your posts bc they’re relatable
Gees, so gay.
Nor can guys, but the most common motives vary. Though a desire for attention is probably common in both cases.
Some people don’t know how to deal with an overtly sexual woman. It throws them for a loop. To some people, only men are allowed to be horny. If you’re a horny woman you must be a slut who can’t control their emotions and that’s bad.
I think it’s important for some men to realize women are people, too. I know that sounds silly to say out loud but I really think some guys think women are these completely different creatures from themselves. We’re all human and, gasp, some like to talk and joke about sex. The horror!
I do hate the double standard that it’s totally fine for men to joke and talk about sex, but when a woman does it, she must be dirty in some way. I get that biologically, women have had to be more choosy with partners because for a long time, the best protection was zero insertion, or the chances of ending up with a child you didn’t want were nonzero. Things are different now. We have the pill. We have emergency contraceptives. Some of us even have access to abortions.
Sex isn’t dirty. It’s normal and natural to want it. It’s normal to have a hard time getting it. It’s normal to be frustrated by the dating field and navigating relationships. It’s normal to feel incredibly rewarded when you do get it. And it’s normal to want to blow off steam by talking to people closest to you about your successes and failures in life. And a big part of being human is one’s own sexual exploits.
One of my closest friends is a woman about 13 years older than me (I’m 33; she’s 46), and she’s going through menopause right now. And she’ll start talking about the difficulty it’s bringing her, and she’ll tell me, “You don’t wanna hear about all this,” or, “I know you don’t care about this.” And the truth is that I do not nor could I ever understand what she’s going through, but as a friend, I can listen to her complain about it and give her the space to vent. Even if I’ll never get it, I can just be a voice in the room to pull out some great hits like:
- “Jeeeesus, I’m so sorry,”
- “Yikes, that sucks,” or
- "Haha, Fuck. That."
As a man, I don’t always have follow up questions or advice to offer someone going through issues unique to women. But people aren’t always looking for advice. Sometimes, it’s just nice to have the space to blow off steam with a safe person.
And that’s not dirty. It’s something we all do.
Curious that this is your perception, while i myself have noticed a sort of inverse trend in that regard.
Especially around these parts it is heavily frowned upon making any kind of horny or sexual comment as a dude about a woman. A surefire way to get schooled on what a misogynist objectifying dick you are (excluding literal porn community comment section of course).
Other horny comments are much less controversial, women on men, men on men, women on women. Things you might find in the average (gay) porn comment section get upvoted on lemmy on a regular basis, im sure it’s totally ironic.
So my personal “analysis” of recent ish lemmy online discourse would be that heterosexual men on lemmy avoid being publicly horny because of the expected blowback. That or they make an alt account.
La’Ron Readus has an interesting video essay on this called ‘The Siren’s Scapegoat’ that I recommend giving a watch if you’re interested on the way movies have handled women being overtly sexual!
tbf this board is 99.8% male and like 1/3rd autistic at that and there’s almost no posts in Lemmy Shitpost talking about how they love showing off their dicks, fucking women, being horny, jerking off etc because these guys are nerds not frat boys
Happy to be proven wrong
That’s not to say the content isn’t welcome, if it wasn’t it’d be downvoted (ask me how I know)
I think there was some of that in nsfw. I think the biggest instance died, though.
Yeah. But then to see it, you would have actually made the conscious choice to go to lemmynsfw, no?
The posts are still shown on the main feed (depending on instance) just buried by everything else. Scroll long enough and you’ll see it
Ah OK. I’m on my own instance. So I don’t have any of those communities here. So in my case I won’t.
It’s less that I mind or care, it’s more that seriously horny content wasn’t really a thing before. Sure, people would joke around, but actual horny-posting was limited to places you had to actively seek out (like lemmynsfw). If people don’t want to draw attention to what they say, be it good or bad, they shouldn’t say things that stick out 🤷
i think the presumably male hornyposting takes the form of “here is an image i enjoy with no commentary,” making the subject of attraction the main focus and barely mentions the poster at all, violet’s specific brand centers violet as the main character, her feelings as central, and barely mentions the actual subject of those feelings
so there’s a real difference
Considering it was only about 100 years ago that science decided that women could orgasm and weren’t just faking it to make their husbands happy…yes, the idea that a woman can be horny and is a normal human being is a shocking revelation to some (many?).
who can’t control their emotions
Ironic how men accuse horny women of being unable to control their emotions when it’s mostly horny men being unable to control their emotions that’s actually problematic (causing misogyny and rape)
Many men tend to be actually too horny, they objectify women and tend to have misogynistic and patriarchal expectations.
See that makes a lot of sense, but you are forgetting something vital. This is the internet, so everyone is a guy. Especially the horny women. Therefore, only men can be horny. Checkmate, wanktheiests.
