“lost at sea”
mf land right over there
???
Is this about his mental health, or just about his shit working conditions?
This is therapy. if I could just drop out of everything for 29 days I’d come back refreshed and Zen as fuck.
I’m getting major surgery in two weeks and I’ll be on short term disability for an entire month afterwards. I’m honestly really looking forward to the time off, even if it’ll be full of physical suffering. My burnout outweighs the physical trauma of having nearly all of my reproductive organs removed.
I did the same, back during COVID lockdown. I think my body just started producing endorphins, because I stopped taking the painkillers and was totally at peace while everybody lost their minds over the isolation. I played The Outer Wilds and accepted that everything must end.
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That’s about 1 standard stint in rehab where I’m from
It is sad when you start considering going to rehab just to get 28-30 days away from work to de-stress, get sleep, meditate, do some inner work and work on healthy habits. Because if you are single and not reproducing, you don’t get maternity leave and if you are young or middle aged and relatively healthy, you aren’t getting any orthopedic surgeries that render you temporarily disabled… and if you already lost your parents, there is no family leave… I mean, I can adopt or pretend to adopt I have some kind of addictive habit but would prefer not to-- Can’t I just take a mental health leave of absence and then return to my job? One week here or there every 6 months (if I am lucky) is just not going to do it.
If I could drop out of everything for 29 days, I wouldn’t come back at all.
Isn’t that called vacation? Just don’t bring any communications device ;)
I don’t know many people that can afford a 29 day vacation (I’m in the US, and yes I’m jealous of what I hear about European benefits)
I was mostly joking :) But also here I am with 35 paid vacation days (I also have maybe 13 paid days of parental leave left, which was initially 210 days, per child).
10/10 would recommend being born here.
Yeah it’s pretty fantastic, even if by some miracle I don’t have to work, all I can afford to do is sit at home anyway.
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No, we’d rather be lost at sea than have to participate in the broken society that makes people need therapy.
You can just do that. No one is stopping you from buying a canoe and floating away
A cursory glance implies a decent canoe starts at $2000, so my bank account is stopping me, at bare minimum
Your ethical choice to not just steal it is the only thing stopping you.
I think we’re gonna have to call this one a skill issue actually, as I don’t think I can discretely put a canoe into my pocket so I’m not sure how you expect me to actually get from canoe acquisition to open seas without arrest.
100%
But also, go to therapy
I lack the photoshop skills, but uh
The ‘plap plap GET PREGNANT’ meme, but with a therapist shouting:
‘accept what you can’t change’
‘don’t blame yourself for things out of your control’
‘oh, the copay is $125’
‘you missed the last appointment so we charged you for not canceling in advance’
‘im worried you’re not taking our sessions seriously’
sorry psych professionals, there is no ethical therapy under capitalism
there is no ethical therapy under capitalism
Lol
i feel vindicated.
The ‘plap plap GET PREGNANT’ meme, but with a therapist shouting:
h’whut with h’whomb?
Ok, I may not have great photoshop skills, but I do have a knowledge of ancient memes:
I hate how I understand this.
I just go camping or backpacking out of data range. But his way works too.
So jelly 😌
Then again, have you seen reality?
1.8/10 on IMDB
So even with bots it’s only 1.8…
Have you tried going to therapy?
Of course I’ve tried going to, there’s a sea.
“men hate therapy”
Yeah not really. You just get beaten down after trying several therapists and paying a lot and not feeling better. Even if you went through that once, it’s very discouraging.
Not to mention it just doesn’t work as well for men as it does for women.
What??
Agreed. What? I’ve never seen a study stating this. And anecdotally, it worked fine for me, once I found the right therapist, the first two were meh, not a good fit.
Please say why it is that you believe that. It’s a fascinating claim.
I have a great therapist these days who has helped me a lot. I still hate therapy. I did finally figure out why, though. Because, with the exception of therapy and a couple of really great people, everyone I’ve ever been vulnerable in front of has weaponized it against me. So even though I know my therapist wouldn’t actually do that I’m still waiting on it to come back and bite me.
Yeah, the weaponization factor is real.
Been dumped by three women, the day after they saw me cry. Good news! My wife is fine with it, as rare as crying is, and comforts me. But y’all women don’t have a good track record in my book.
See but I had a psychiatrist as a kid that would literally report what I said to my mother (and not like harming others or myself like is legally required, just like, shit that I said I didn’t like about my mom and then he’d tell her and she’d punish me about it.) Legally, he was allowed to do that since I was a child, I’m not now and so legally they can’t even if they had her phone number, but now I can’t trust them even if that distrust is slightly illogical. Double distrust due to incentive to make me return and keep paying, but y’know the childhood “trauma” (if you can call it that) of having it weaponized against me using the therapist is still there on that one too.
Reminds me of the plot line in early seasons of Mad Men where Betty would go to a shrink, then later that night Don would call the doc to see what all Betty said.
Probably not what you want to hear, it really sucks to be in that spot, but it is possible to find good ones! I went through 3 therapists over the course of a couple of years before finding one that helped me.
Here’s my thing with therapy. I know the issue, i know what’s wrong with me, and I know what I’m supposed to do to fix it, i just don’t. I can’t see how therapy will help beyond what I’ve got
You can talk about why you dont want to fix it. Maybe there’s something there. Sometimes there’s just a hump you need to get over and wont unless you push yourself.
If not you can kind of live in that space for a while and see if the barrier is even real in the first place.
If I had everything to survive, a way to go back and couple of books - sign me up.
Weak men can’t admit to their faults nor face their shortcomings, lackings and fears. Entire sections of the internet have been devoted to allowing men to avoid reality and remain immature…
I hate this ‘weak men’ bullshit, sure some fit the popular definition, but do you know their pasts? Their trauma? The reason they fit such a description? I’d say it’s pretty damn difficult to know these about anyone you never actually talk to.
Also, sometimes escapism works in favour of people and gets them to put their lives back together, although it can also cause negative changes as well, although it’s not guaranteed. It’s not a maturity or immaturity thing, it’s just an act.
I understand, and I honestly wasn’t trying to hurt anyone nor make light of their trauma. What I said was simply descriptive. And there’s a difference between losing yourself in media sometimes, perhaps to cleanse your head, and the pro MTGOW/incel narratives and communities that pollute online spaces, which is what I was referring to.
Yeah that makes more sense now, and I agree that the incel and other types of similar communities are pretty harmful, best to avoid those crowds. Also, I was probably a bit too harsh in my previous comment, it’s mainly the fact the idea that people can be labelled as weak is strange to me, and unless someone has done something truly antisocial, like being a pedo, creep or something else for instance, I don’t think anyone is truly weak, just only deficient in certain areas, although unfortunately some people remain unredeemable.
You have to be kidding, men don’t have trauma. If they do they’re weak.
Wait…
therapy costs money
