It looks like medieval torture, from the metal rods inserted into sawn bones to the months of agonising recovery. But to some, travelling to Turkey to gain a few inches is a (very high) price worth paying
  • Awa@lemmy.worldMEnglish
    1·
    4 months ago

    Thank you all for your participation, but if you cannot be civil in your discussions, the post will be locked down.

  • recursive_recursion@piefed.caEnglish
    152·
    4 months ago

    Jesus christ

    not sure if it’s just me but reading this makes me extremely queezy.

    Ugh I can handle medical procedures and nsfl situations but

    Tap for spoiler

    “turns the key that forces apart the rods in his femurs”

    is too much of a step to grow more height methinks.

    These kinds of articles are interesting to read but god gods like I can’t imagine the insecurity one must have to actually commit into going through these kinds of procedures.

    • I say this as a person below average height btw

    Either way thanks for sharing!

    One thing I’d suggest however is to use the NSFW tag as it does show open surgical wounds. Even though blood and gore related content doesn’t bother me, it still might be unpleasant for others.

  • Jonathan@lemmy.worldEnglish
    781·
    4 months ago

    Fucking hell. I mean… fuck.

    I wish the world would lose all of its stupid societal stigmas that make people feel less human than their equally human peers.

    • IninewCrow@lemmy.caEnglish
      3·
      4 months ago

      Came here to look for this comment

      And in the film … at least he was able to accomplish his dream in the end … broken legs and all.

  • phant@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    4 months ago

    Weird. This was featured as a kind-of plot point in a recent rom-com I saw, Materialists. The character who had it done gave it glowing reviews…

    • Smoogs@lemmy.worldEnglish
      101·
      4 months ago

      Toxic masculinity too. If you read the article a lot of men are men’s worst enemy on height.

      • HexesofVexes@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        4 months ago

        Actually, I think the whole height thing started as a counter-culture poke at men who had stated physical preferences.

        It was the idea of hold men to an unrealistic physical standard to teach empathy, to show how objectification feels.

        Like most pokes though, it went the wrong way, and contributed to the manosphere’s formation instead.

        My memory isn’t the best though, so I may well be wrong.

  • Endymion_Mallorn@kbin.melroy.org
    343·
    4 months ago

    Being 5’3", I’ve thought about this kind of thing in the past. But the risks are too great, and I’m not looking to live with more pain through my life than I already have, just for the cause of being taller.

    • arin@lemmy.worldEnglish
      145·
      4 months ago

      There are plenty of women who would date a 5’3 man, and plenty of the women are shorter than 5’3

      • Endymion_Mallorn@kbin.melroy.org
        162·
        4 months ago

        I’m going to say this simply, given my dating history. Any man who’s a halfway decent person can find someone who will love them and ignore relatively minor physical issues (and sometimes major physical issues too). Any man who’s complaining about not getting dates just because he’s short has one of three situations:

        1. He has the wrong social circle.

        2. It has nothing to do with his height, and the prospects he’s approaching recognize the red flags.

        3. His own insecurities make it impossible for him to prioritize another person.

        Of those, I have sympathy only for the first. Finding love is not easy for anyone, and it is possible to simply not know where to look. Otherwise, it’s not about his height, it’s either about his demeanor, or his own issues around his height.

        My reason for wanting to be taller is extremely pragmatic: I need to be able to reach stuff in my kitchen cabinets without standing on the counter or getting a ladder. I need to be able to shop in stores without having to stand on the shelves to get stuff up top. Simple stuff. I’d also just once like to be able to see over someone’s head in a packed movie theater, so that I don’t have to choose between going only to shows that I think will have low attendance (matinees) or sitting so close to the screen that it’s overwhelming.

  • Signtist@bookwyr.meEnglish
    11·
    4 months ago

    I had a leg length discrepancy of a little under 3 inches when I was in middle school. They offered to either stop the growth in the long leg to let the short one catch up, or just directly lengthen the shorter one after I was done growing. After hearing what the process was for the latter, I happily chose the former. I’m alright being a little shorter if it means avoiding that torture.

  • bob@feddit.ukEnglish
    142·
    4 months ago

    We really need to start promoting therapy more…

  • Lemminary@lemmy.worldEnglish
    15·
    4 months ago

    I’ve never felt insecure about my height, and I do fall at the lowest end of the spectrum. Also one of the few times being gay has been a blessing since men tend to be a lot less fussy about height.

    To me, everyone else’s expectations are the problem. Not me! I literally don’t understand the appeal because it feels like such an arbitrary thing to like, like hair color.

    • Ultraviolet@lemmy.worldEnglish
      41·
      4 months ago

      Incels love to blame all their problems on height because it’s the one thing that can’t be their fault.

    • porksnort@slrpnk.netEnglish
      4·
      4 months ago

      Hear hear. I am average-slim and gay. Being easy to handle by a larger man is basically non-existent-God’s way of making up for all the other difficulties of being queer in a straight world.

      • Lemminary@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        4 months ago

        Being gay certainly has its perks! For being such an awful sin, the Christian god sure gives a lot of mixed signals.

  • Smoogs@lemmy.worldEnglish
    134·
    4 months ago

    What is crazy is a lot of us women are ok with short men.

    yes, there are a vocal FEW women who speak for the plethora of us. But they can fuck right off along with the men who have weight and breast and hair color and hair straightness preferences and willing to overlook pure value to meet those explicit bullshit standards.

    But in my experience It’s the men who are not ok with taller women and martyr that we (the collective we as a women) are (all) forcing them into this kind of situation. I’ve had more than a few men announce I’m not allowed to wear heels. Or go out of their way to tell me I’m too tall for them. It’s honestly not women alone going around setting these rules as ‘The’ women standards for men.

    Women don’t ever say to who a man “well your breasts make mine look too small/your straight hair makes mine look too curly/your blond hair makes mine too brunette/your thin waist makes mine look thick” to knock themselves out of the run by self perception alone.

    Men are not men’s best friend in so many ways and you guys really have to start being your own best friends too here rather than your worst enemies. And look into mental health please.

    • Angry_Autist@lemmy.worldEnglish
      102·
      4 months ago

      What delicious delusion, wish I could be there to watch you when it collapses

      the vast majority of presidents since the advent of photographs in newspaper have nearly always been the tallest

      Height has a powerful psychological effect, on the possessor and the witnesses

      But here you are pretending the stigma doesn’t exist

      • NigelFrobisher@aussie.zoneEnglish
        27·
        4 months ago

        That’s exactly what I’d expect a diddy man to say.

        Also, what’s supposed to happen when my delusion collapses?

        • Angry_Autist@lemmy.worldEnglish
          51·
          4 months ago

          That the majority of humans operate rationally, and not on some monkey tribe level pseudo consciousness.

          All the cute little things people without power tell themselves to sleep well at night, that humans are inherently rational, or that people aren’t judged on appearances, and that truth and justice always prevails if you just wag your finger ‘naughty naughty’ hard enough.

          The delusion that we are anything more than naked apes fresh from the savanna evolution-wise and the tallest and loudest will always get preference.

          Short men are judged and will always face a deficit no matter what, which is why they go the extra mile

          Same reason fat people usually have good personalities

          They have to do it to find a way to be equal because sure as fuck society won’t let them have an equal footing out the gate

          That’s the delusion you need to get over, no one bothers looking for hidden qualities anymore, no one has the time

  • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.worldEnglish
    421·
    4 months ago

    isn’t this just body dysmorphia?

    also, men are also vulnerable to body image issues, and we’re also given unrealistic body standards in the media.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      4 months ago

      Apparently yeah, I was only aware of the delusional variant (where the obsessed on flaw is not present).

      I’m seeing dysmorphia run fucking rampant in men over the past several years. It was initially mostly noticeable with incels, but it’s gotten much more noticably widespread.

      • Fizz@lemmy.nzEnglish
        12·
        4 months ago

        This is a terrible example of gender affirming surgery.

        • ᓚᘏᗢ@piefed.socialEnglish
          1·
          4 months ago

          How? These men believe that being tall is masculine, and they are uncomfortable emough in their bodies to literally get painful surgery for some extra height so they can feel more masculine.

          • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.worldEnglish
            2·
            4 months ago

            it’s a good example in the sense that it is a perfect example of gender affirming surgery.

            not good as in the procedure is good, but as in a good fit for gender affirming

          • Fizz@lemmy.nzEnglish
            11·
            4 months ago

            I’m going to directly compare this to top surgery or bottom surgery in trans people because i believe those are the best examples of gender affirming care but this also applies to hrt. I’m not trans and im not a pysc so take this with a grain of salt.

            These men dont feel Dysphoria over their height what they are feeling is Body Dysmorphia. Body dysmophia is obsessive-compulsive disorder over a body part being ‘wrong’ or defective. An extra inch or two of height is not associated with being male. They will still be recognized as male before and after. They feel like they are male both before and after the surgery and gender never comes into the equation. They are obessing over height because of a mental health condition causing them to hyper fixate on this ‘issue’ that might not even be real. There are men who are like 6’1 getting height surgery.

            Now if we look at top surgery for a comparison. Gender Dysphoria is described as an psychological distress where they identify with a gender other than the biological gender they were assigned at birth. FTM trans men might feel dysphoria from having breasts and top surgery directly addresses the root cause of the dysphoria. Breasts are a primary sex characteristic so this makes sense, something like botox would not be considered gender affirming care I believe.

            It gets blurred because a lot of trans people also suffer from body dysomorphia and hyper fixate on body parts but there seems to be a clear distinction between the two conditions and height lengthening surgery doesn’t fit the criteria for gender affirming care.

            • ᓚᘏᗢ@piefed.socialEnglish
              1·
              4 months ago

              These men get gender euphoria from being tall and had gender dysphoria from being short. They believed being short was not masculine. They got surgery to feel more masculine. This is an example of gender affirming care, just like breast implants and hair plugs.

              • Fizz@lemmy.nzEnglish
                11·
                4 months ago

                I cant see anything that links this to feelings of gender discomfort or euphoria and it doesnt make sense that this would be gender related. Its body dysmorphia and the treatment is therapy.