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Reminds me of the time I accidentally blocked someone behind me in the grocery store. Before I could say anthing, she shouted “Some people say excuse me!”
So I looked all confused and did sign language saying I couldn’t hear. I will never feel bad about it because I’m trash and divider woman can join my trash villain team.
Why do you need a divider?
so the cashier knows where one customer’s groceries end and the next begin. this feels like she’s going to punish herself, buying his groceries, out of pettiness, i guess
I should have been more clear: I don’t think dividers are needed. It’s possible in some stores that’s different, but usually there’s no purpose that I can see.
I think someone on 4chan once answered this question: It’s the only form of segregation white folks are okayed to use, so they cling to it like they do guns and religion.
so the cashier knows where your items end and can start the payment portion of checking out, getting you out the door more quickly
I don’t put the divider up for the benefit of the person behind. I put it up for me. well, and also to be nice. but it benefits me
But there’s never really a need, or at least I’ve not seen a situation requiring it for years. You just leave a foot or so of space.
see, a reasonable person just leaves a gap. but some people think that if they cram the belt full, the cashier will somehow process everything more quickly.
same people who glare at you when you don’t start loading items when the instant free space appears on the belt. like mf I got a cart full of stuff, and I know how to unpack onto the belt so they get packed back into the cart neatly, I need two feet to start laying out the big things. mfs want you to start the belt out with bananas and shit
Oh I see. I go for the approach of just never ever acknowledging the existence of other people in the store so I don’t give a fuck about how they feel about my belt loading. Since 90% of people kinda suck it doesn’t bother me that much. At worst I’m pissing off maybe 5 non-shitty-humans per year.
I’ve never understood this either. If someone is holding things in their arms it’s helpful, but if they have a cart then nothing is really gained. I can easily fill the conveyor belt by the time the person in front of me finishes paying. So getting started early feels like I am crowding them for no reason. Like flooring it between red lights; you’re just wasting energy to wait anyway.
I agreed with you 100% up to the end.
There are few things in driving more irritating than some asshole coasting at 10 mph to a light when you want to turn before the light. You should accelerate and drive at a normal speed between red lights if there are other humans around you because you are not the main character. You don’t need to floor it but you should still drive to the light. I also experience this regularly as a pedestrian…either fucking stop and let me jaywalk or fucking go and let me jaywalk, coasting fucks over everyone around you.
Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
This doesn’t make a lot of sense. Amanda is talking about a “woman in Tesco”, but somehow knows the reason she took the divider back. Did the woman announce this or something? Or is it just guesswork? Or is it a bullshit made-up story? You decide!
More to the point though, putting the divider would help her more than it helps the man. Because without the divider she risks the mans stuff being confused with her stuff, such that she might pay for items that aren’t hers, or just wait her own time. So why should the dude be thanking her if she’s actually just looking after her own interests? (And all that is aside from the fact that it is such a low-effort ordinary interaction that a person might not notice or care that it happened.)
Putting down the divider is not a courtesy, it is expected of you.
This is like expecting someone to say thank you because you flushed the toilet before leaving it
i liked the other comment that also said it was like thanking someone for flushing the toilet and hour after you posted
In all of my experience, it’s required for the person behind them to put the divider on the belt before putting their own groceries down. Not on the person in front to put it down after their items (unless they’re trying to be courteous)
Other way around. If you don’t want to pay for my shit, set your divider.
Big Karen energy.
“entitlement”
use your vocabulary…
“all bad women are karen” is so 2010…Ok Erik
psh, real Robert energy coming off you, chief
Now you’re cooking with gas.
Whatever Chief.
so you only speak in cliches then?
Eh. I just consider it a common courtesy thing that doesn’t require a response.
Yeah, nobody has ever said thank you when I’ve done it, nor did I expect them to.
Oh I’m sorry. Everyone deserves a thanks on occasion. Thank you kind stranger, i am so flighty i forget to say it at the store 😋
Yeah exactly. This is like holding a door for the person 2 steps behind you. It’s something that decent people do without a second thought, because it’s the right thing to do.
Eewwww, Twitter.
I’m not gonna assume it’s flirting but if it is…
I’m this way with helpful comments
Thank you
Is that not how you are ment to put the devider down. If the next person to put it down you may still have stuff to put on the convaer belt. This is potentially a high stakes event.
Yes it is high stakes.
When I go for it, I leave exactly one milk carton of blank belt before adding the divider.
I feel that it gives me an air of unhurried friendly eye-contact-free confidence.
I’ve heard other people speak in this situation, but that sounds like a pro player move that I might warm up to in a few more years.
I’m sorry, I fail to see how this reads as anything other than “Amanda” being an insanely self-important cunt…
So, if you “support this” feel free to assume that extends to you as well
I’m sorry but I have to assume you’re not British (which is fine, not your fault). You wouldn’t survive one day in the jungle of unspoken rules of politeness that is a Tesco queue.
No ‘thank you’ for a divider? That’s a firm mild stare for you
No ‘no worries’ when people apologise for forgetting to thank you for the divider? Rude.
No ‘nonono it was me luv’ when people tell you ‘no worries’ after you apologised for forgetting to thank them for the divider? Are you some sort of sociopathic asshole?
I’d rather get punched in the dick then deal with this passive aggressive bullshit.
No worries! Cheers. Ta. Sorry.
I’d rather shoot myself than have to navigate that purgatory, holy shit
No worries love! (subtitle: ‘go on shoot yourself’)
💀💀💀😭😭😭🗿🗿🗿🗿
Wow, really? You’re just going to literally tell someone to go kill themselves because they don’t want to live by your grocery store line etiquette?
Yeah, that’s not fucked up or anything…
Yikes.
No reason to get all riled up like this LMAO.
It is well within the confines of the conversationOr wait, is this missing a /s?
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Now that is outside the confines of the conversation.
I don’t think you understood the joke. And since I imitated a joke about shooting myself, continuing that joke was fine, even funny; this is not
Sorry it’s actually in the law. It was voted by a very large majority of MPs in 1988. Not putting the divider on the belt usually results in the bobbies taking you out of Tesco and shooting you on the bus replacement service.
I’d recently blocked “LadyButterfly she/her” because I was getting fed up of her constant low effort ragebait, so I was surprised to see this post appear on my feed - it turns out she’s posting from multiple instances, presumably to get around either blocks or bans.
Oh wow… Ya know, I’d noticed on a few occasions that she seemed to be the predominant poster in a few of my mental health/'tism related subs, but now that you’ve brought it to my attention I can’t seem to recall her posting anything OTHER THAN the most basic of basic bitch, LCD kinda stuff day in and day out… So the whole “secret identities” aspect tracks too 🤣😂
Yup. Also the post captions always read a bit too engagmentey, if that makes sense? Like either the account is a bot, or it’s one that being run cynically by a farm who’s following a set of guidelines to maximize reach over anything like sincere interest or value or humanity.
People who get stirred to rage by someone momentarily impressed by mild and inconsequential pettiness: “This is some kind of social media conspiracy.”
It’s hardly tinfoil hat time - I defy you to name a single poster anywhere on Lemmy who reads more like a repost bot or engagement farmer than that particular user.
Shit, is she getting paid? How do I sign up?
I browse by subscribed, so I don’t see a lot of stuff. But off the top of my head? Stamets, King, Mickey7, probably others I don’t recall.
Pretty sure OP switched instances some time back if you’re wondering why you see her stuff.
If I was getting paid I wouldn’t have needed to beg for money a few weeks ago just to try and remain homeless. If I was getting paid I wouldn’t be so worried about getting holiday gifts for my friends or myself. Getting paid… fuckin’ lol
It’s kinda funny to be honest. So many people get so worked up the second that they start seeing someone post because, to them, they cannot fathom someone posting that much to social media without an actual incentive whether that be monetary or anything else.
Imagine needing to be thanked for that, yeah I can do it myself if you really have the need for pointless gratitude lol
Yeah… OK biatch, if you wanna pay for my food too…
I’ve given up on having expectations of other people.
I’ve decided to just be nice to everyone no matter the circumstance or reaction. If you don’t want to be nice or polite … screw you.
If you want to be unkind, negative or rude … I’m going away from you as fast as possible … and if I can’t avoid you, I’m giving you an earful of how I feel about your stinking guts
I’m human and I enjoy these stories of pettiness just like anybody else.
But if I may please speak in my “old man who has seen things” capacity for a moment, this is not the way to live. You should endeavor to do positive things every day to make life better for people around you as well as yourself. And you don’t do this because it gets you praise or rewards, you do it because of the internal rewards. It’s good for your mind.
Exactly.
I am autistic. Talking to total strangers anywhere but online is really fucking hard. I find the words catching in my throat every time I go to speak. And even then, sometimes it’s barely above a whisper.
To a normal person, this is petty. To me and mine, this is cruel. And you have no way to tell which it will be. Maybe you shouldn’t support this.
You can be a victim or a victor, you made your choice…needlessly.
You can Literally order groceries to be picked up w no human interaction or go to self check out.
I don’t think “cease interacting with humans” is the best advice.
We live in a society in which that’s the preference of most people shopping today. Thus I dont think your advice is the best advice.
Also, If you’re gonna (needlessly) waste everyones time gonna with a meltdown by causeing a scene, then you are being as selfish as someone driving slow in the fast lane.
This is grocery shopping, get your celery and get out. Im not saying lock him in a padded room.
Not saying thank you isn’t having a meltdown or making a scene, nor is it analogous to unsafe driving practices. Are you thinking this up just because they said they’re autistic?
My advice is only to not be passive-aggressive when people don’t behave the way you think they should, which is pretty low-effort.
I was over here thinking what if somebody didn’t even know that was what she was doing or that they were supposed to say thank you. Now that poor person will be left wondering what even happened because her resolution (picking it up and putting it back) provides no opportunity to learn.
I’m autistic, rules are rules. The divider provider must be acknowledged.
Voice is improved with practice. Join a toastmasters,or learn to sing?
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply? It’s a two-way street.
And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
The point here is that removing the divider after having placed it simply for the person not thanking them is petty at best and cruel at worst, and it simply shouldn’t happen.
People should be better, and should have some fucking grace and consider that maybe said person has a hard time speaking, or yet again worse, is mute.
And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
Yes, that’s why you have to practice. I got over mine by working in a hifi shop when I was 16. You have to speak to people, practice makes you better
That’s one of those things where the only way out is through.
Yes!
Or people could try not being so prissy and obsessed with victorian “values”.
I agree that we should all work on ourselves to the best of our ability, but I think the point I’m sticking on is the idea that this person deserves to be punished with revenge rudeness if they fail to perform politeness a specific way.
“I did something great, you must now do it or you are less than me 👋”
Now let me condescend to you with advice that you don’t want from a pretty obviously petty person that overcame one small flaw
Sounds great! Where do I sign up!
Yeeeeeah fuck off with that
And I’d tell you that, in person, both assertively and clearly
It’s called shared experience you retard
Yeah you clearly don’t have offline friends
New flaw found! Gotta practice not being an asshole
I overcame it when I was just a boy, you should practice more!
Edit: I just couldn’t resist
I think you might be taking this personally and not really understanding what it’s like.
It’s you that is lacking compassion.
Couldn’t resist what? Being a massive bell end? Are you autistic? No? stfu then
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply?
I always put the divider down behind my stuff, line behind me or no, and expect nothing in return from the people behind me. If the person in front of me can’t be arsed to put the divider down after their stuff, it’s fun to see how many of my items get scanned before they get to have an awkward conversation with the cashier. Yes I’m normal and well adjusted, why do you ask?
Also autistic : Rules are a construct we ourself shape and create in order to archive the illusion of control over the raw anarchy that is the reality of free will and sovereign thought.
Free will? Sovereign thought? Scientificaly disproven.
It’s just polite, I wasn’t being entirely serious
literally, the divider is to protect the person in front from having to pay for a accidental scan of the items the person behind them may place. it’s literally is everyone’s interest that the divider is there. don’t go expecting thanks yous in general but especially when the action was in self interest
Cruelty usually is the point. It’s why I think humans should part ways from each other, end this civilizational bullshit.
I can’t fault you. At least we should organize into groups of 150 or less, the theorized maximum number of people that your average hairless ape can comprehend compassionately.
I propose a cell-based or council-network system that uses directly overlapping membership via 25 member subgroups, with each person a member of two groups. It maximizes empathic reach as members would better empathize with members of their two groups while increasing the likelihood members would empathize with members of a different group through the connection of another group member.
Sadly, some Anticrist wannabies run the world. Ask them.
