At least a first name if family name is too much administrative hassle.
I have always told work people that I prefer to be called a different shorting of my name then the one I do prefer. Like if I was Robert I would tell work I prefer Bob instead of Rob.
So you’d go by Bob instead of Rob but only at your job?
Maybe Bob is a slob at his job, but Rob has a knob on his hob at home.
And for his hobby he goes by Bobby
In his yurt he prefers Bert
He works for Bob Loblaw’s Law Blog.
Huh. After decades of working with the public, I wish I’d thought of this years ago. If I encounter someone in public and they say hey Bob! I’d instantly know it was someone I met through work, so I should probably stay mildly professional.
For a long time I went by my full name at work but family and friends were always by nickname. Now I work with someone who was a friend and was used to calling me my nickname and would introduce me to others by it, so it started to bleed.
However at work, I still refer to myself by my full name with people I don’t like or trust as much. If anyone ever figures out my system they’ll realize how I feel about people in the office very quickly hahaha.
There’s a few people I know in real life, who I originally met online, and who call me “Chozo” more often than by my real name. Names are weird.
Yeah, same, my d&d group calls me by my first character’s name :)
I did that a few times, it was worst when the character name was just a standard name with one letter difference from the player’s real name. I only found out that I had gotten the two confused after I looked more closely at the sheet a week of talking every day.
Same with me, and a few people who call me ‘Tira’
I am perfectly happy to have it that way - just like OP suggested it’s a nice separation. And while I have nothing against my given name and actually quite like it, Tira is a name I chose for myself.
Part of the reason cops and military use rank structure so they can simply address each other by rank instead of their gender or name and then go home and use their name and preferred gender pronouns there
Uh, what? When i was in we called each other by our first names if we were friends or last names if we were acquaintances. Hardly anyone used ranks unless you were being yelled at or had to report. I was in a combat arms unit so maybe its different for other types of units but i doubt it.
You never addressed your commissioned and warrants with rank? The hell kinda low discipline high morale unit were you in?
No I used, sir or mister or LT. Like I was supposed to.
Fun fact, you can use whatever names you want. All names are made up. Your “legal name” is just what the government calls you, but you can ask other people to call you something else entirely. The same goes with pronouns.
My colleague has the same name as my boss.
His nickname (translates to “Shorty”) is based on his last name.
And that’s so weird to say as someone being younger and smaller than your colleague to call him “Shorty”.
Reason is my dad calls me “Großer” (literal translation: Bigger -> As in “The great”) and I jokingly call him that back. But the same thing can be said with calling him “Kurzer” if he’s smaller.Yeah, police background checks for your job work better when you give them a fake name 🧐
Background checks are big into “A.K.A.” listings.
Joe, Joey, Joseph, Jar-Man…
Can confirm. I have a Rupert J Farnsworth III name, and no one calls me that.
My background check and extra check and mili check and squirrell check and all that? Steve Guppy aka Rupert J Farnsworth III is cool.
My bank readily accepts cheques addressed to my preferred name. Our IRS emulant has all that stuff. It was only 2 years ago my new employer mandated deadnames and it’s been a constant struggle to bring their Plano/Delhi asses into line with anything modern. People say “Rupert! Bwahahaha” when it pops up.
A guy I used to work with went by the nickname of “Womble”, his name was actually Raymond.
One day I was poking through work orders in our system and discovered that it also officially knew him as “Womble <last name>” and there was no sign of Raymond in there.
That’s the thing: if he went by Womble at work then that was his name. The fact that the government called him Raymond doesn’t make that his only name, they are both valid.
Our IT intake asks “is there another name you prefer to be known by” - and I have gone by my middle name since I was 12, so I told them, and they cheerfully complied… on half the things in their system, the other half use my first name - things like the name under my picture during Teams calls. But, my e-mail address uses the middle name, so that’s nice.
At my work we let people use whatever name they want for any IT stuff. Basically you give us one name and that’ll be your email, Teams, account ID, basically anything your coworkers can see. The only time the legal name is used is on HR documents and payroll, but they’re working to adjust that too, which would be super great. There’s no reason anyone should have to be referred by as a name that they don’t feel is their own or that triggers traumas.
Hello, my name is Marc S, i’m the head of the Macrodata Refining department.
The work is mysterious and important.
I’m enjoying every reference in this thread equally
Praise Kier
Sex workers: Am I joke to you?
You just approached the Sovereign Citizen mindset from first principles.
Maybe like the Severance tv show
I changed my name before starting my current job for this reason.
I read your username as the page was scrolling. Also I’m high.
I thought your screen name was “FlakeemBakeem@piefed.social”
So, you don’t show up for your dates, and then you go get high…at piefed.social.
Ironically I’ve never changed my username. It dates back about twenty five years and I have it printed on clothes. Occasionally someone recognises me online.
I would assume you were advertising a local restaurant.
Restaurant seems generous!
…But what I mean is over the shoulders of a jacket, that sort of thing. Handy for conventions, meetups, and stuff like that.
Do you work for ice?
If you go into porn that’s pretty much a prerequisite
Just imagine this in the James Bond world. “Jennifer? That’s just my stage name. My real name is Pussy Galore.”
Not always… I knew a girl once…
What’s her full name and social security number
Pet of the month from the 1980s… lost track of her in the 90s, pretty sure she looks different now.
I go by a different name at work and I do think it helps with the separation at times. Idk why people in this post are thinking it’s weird to do this??? Do you all believe ppl at work are your friends? So many people must love their jobs I guess. lol
I am really sorry to hear that you haven’t experienced an enjoyable workplace yet.
I like my job. It’s annoying but likable.
Especially the colleagues make it bearable and I’ll stay for a cold one after work on a friday to chill in the corner or on the balcony (during summer).
The idea reminds me of superheroes going by different names as superheroes than their personal names. Traditionally this is because of secret identities but in the MCU, most of the heroes don’t have secret identities.
“Oh we’re using our made up names. I’m Spiderman”
I’m reminded of someone at work who jokingly introduced himself as Nightwing. I genuinely cannot remember his real name.
Which one is the real identity and which one is the secret identity: workName or homeName?
In my opinion, Batman’s true identity is Batman and Bruce Wayne is the disguise, but for most heroes their personal name is their true self and the superhero is the disguise
Also true for Superman. He can’t change who he is, a superhero. However, he can disguise himself as Clark Kent.
But back to the original question. If you’re Robin at work and Samantha at home, which one is the secret identity?
In my opinion, the name you use at home would be your true self and the name you use at work would be the disguise because most people put on a professional persona at work and don’t behave naturally. It would ultimately depend on the individual though, some people might feel more like their true selves at work than outside work
I’ve done this! highly recommended
My brother-in-law goes by his first name at work and his middle name with family and friends
I think someone in my team does that with family. I’m not sure if hes a fan though
